Yes, its generative, but it illustrates the idea
I was going to post on !fedimemes@feddit.uk but that instance has a no generative content policy.
I think a major limiter on lemmy growth are the instances that encourage talk of violence, crime, being abusive to others, and are just generally super combative... maybe not written into the instance rules, but as demonstrated by what instance admins don't enforce on their own users.
I know a schism is scary for a small society like lemmy, but I'm starting to think its necessary
if not a defederation, some protocol level whitelisting of users or comms that demonstrate the bare minimum of being able to play nicely with others (realizing this would take some novel work - like adding a user level whitelist to federation rather then the current banlist, and while were at it some eventual consistency in meta-state in bans)
Basically, the toxicity needs to be partitioned off, gated, or some level of meta-moderation for instances that wont police themselves to minimum levels of behavior. It's embarrassing to share lemmy with people I know now, given how off the wall it quickly gets.
Whatever the solution or solutions are, I just wish more people in positions to do something about it would....do something about it. Because I 100% agree it's embarrassing to share the Fediverse with anyone as it currently is.
I may believe in pacifism as the way for myself to live, but I also believe that if someone is going to step up into that role, declare themselves like that, then they have set expectations for themselves in others' eyes. If they fail to meet those expectations but keep playing the role and acting like a qualified leader of mankind, they should lose all authority and be prepared to face ridicule for their farce.