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So today was meant to be the day was gonna invite a group of people to a small gathering at my house. I made a silly website that'd show all the info and i'd go around personally inviting them.

I think they just liked the idea of being invited more than the event itself. I had around 10 people explicitly tell to my face that they were coming.

Noone followed through.

I probably fucked up somewhere in the process but it hurts nonetheless; It was the first event I had organized for a group. I wanted to share my world with the people around me. I wanted to showcase my dogs and my garden.

At least i've learned something, I got to cook some meat for my family. But damn, this feels isolating.

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[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 19 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

It's a real thing in Seattle. That's why everyone has loose invites and byob, and sometimes food or your own protein, to the party. It's a crap shoot.

[–] AlecSadler@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 11 hours ago

It's a thing to tell people you're going and then not show up?

That seems like a thing that shouldn't be a fucking thing.

[–] orbituary@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Seattle here, Dexter Ave. I feel like this was a thing before I found community. It's about knowing who is genuinely your friend and keeping them. I think we as people are wishful and wear rose colored glasses in this respect.

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 7 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I feel like this was a thing before I found community.

Oh yeah, for sure. I think we all have those loose invites though, lol.

On another note, there seems to be a large percentage of Seattleites on Lemmy. It's kind of cool.

[–] orbituary@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 27 minutes ago

Many of us have sense.