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I genuinely don’t understand how people see social interaction as something beautiful or natural. To me it feels like pure obligation.

Even at work you are not really yourself. You are adjusting how you speak, how you act, and how you respond just to fit the role, satisfy your employer, and keep things smooth with colleagues. That constant switching can be exhausting.

Outside of work it does not feel that different. Conversations, replying, small talk, making plans, it can all feel more like maintenance than real connection.

Sometimes it feels like people are not actually enjoying it as much as they say. They are just used to it being the default way to live.

Maybe I am missing something, but I do not see the beautiful part everyone talks about.

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[–] tyler@programming.dev 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

They said “can” not “have to”. You changed what they said and then attacked that.

[–] Yliaster@lemmy.world -3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Explain what relevance even mentioning it has here, then, if not this?

[–] Chozo@fedia.io 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Because it's a fact relevant to the discussion at hand?

[–] Yliaster@lemmy.world -3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

A brute force assertion doesn't do anything.

How is it relevant?

It's only relevance is in him trying to encourage it the way I see it; if you disagree, explain the relevance.

[–] hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

The reason to mention it is to explain that people overcome this hurdle in many different ways, one of them is intoxicants. So other people struggle with this in the same way, they just have other means to go about it.

It's not meant to encourage drinking, it's meant to tell you that a bunch of people are regularly getting drunk in order to handle it.

[–] Yliaster@lemmy.world 1 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

That's fine I suppose my major irk is with the idea that you are somehow bound to be masking with everyone, which I don't think is true.

[–] hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

It sure as hell isn't I can tell you from experience, and I don't think that's the point of the comment.

[–] Yliaster@lemmy.world 0 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

The original comment I was responding to:

You're gonna wear a bit of a mask with everyone, whether you're aware of it or not.

It's a pretty firm statement.

[–] hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world 1 points 9 hours ago

??? So why mention the intoxicants at all if you weren't responding to that?

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 1 points 1 day ago

You should look in a mirror, Mr Sophist