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(Different guy, and never been on the apps and refuse to start, but)
Where?
"Meet them at the Grocery store"
Alright Gramps it's not 1964 anymore.
"Go to the gym"
Meanwhile women complain about being asked out at the gym, there was a thread on lemmy alone about it like last week.
"Get a hobby"
Women: "I just want to do a hobby without being asked out all the time!"
(Meanwhile my hobby: Nature photography with a lil bit of weed smokin', nobody wants to meet me in the woods except for other stoner men, women would literally rather I be a bear.)
"Go to the bar"
Alright Richie Rich. I don't drink that often and when I do I'm not paying $15 a drink for the same whiskey out of a $35 bottle. Granted this is the one place still acceptible, guess I have to delve into full blown alcoholism and go to the bar nightly on the off chance I find true love, hooray.
All the little islands that people drive to in their cars are off limits for interaction further than absolute surface level these days, at least in the US, apparently it's less bad elsewhere from what I'm told.
Well I didn't say talk to real women, I said real humans. More connections and more mates will bring you into contact with potential partners. If you're only focused on snatching pussy you'll never get it. Just make new friends, try new hobbies, experience new things and go to new places. Keep exploring, for explorations sake.
Oh right I forgot men can only want pussy and real emotional connections are for girls my mistake didn't mean to be gay or whatever. (Can you feel the sarcasm without a /s or is that really necessary?)
My dude I get "pussy." Finding sex isn't the problem, if I didn't have FWB frankly I could pay for it if I had to, "pussy" is easy. Meanwhile I've only had one true emotional connection that could be called "in love" in my entire life (and a couple that I thought I loved but realized I was just chasing the feelings of the first one and lying to myself, which I no longer do thankfully, but) that's the elusive thing I can't find anymore. Actually my problem with the apps and bars is that they're more conducive to hook-up culture than finding actual love (it's not impossible but harder), so like, fuck off with that shit or whatever.
And as to the rest: great, I will and I do. Still not supposed to meet women that way, so your suggestion is then "make friends and beg them to hook you up with their sister" which isn't really so much of a strategy. I get it, "give up," that isn't actually helpful for finding anyone it's helpful for not caring that you're going to likely die alone with your cats. I'm already there, but it'd still be nice if I magically found a loving relationship through idk osmosis or maybe a genie I guess because "give up," so I'm not trying, so magic is the only way.
'if' being the operative word there mate. Maybe ease up on being a sarky cunt and you'll be a tad more loveable. I'd give you better advice but you'd just argue against anyway, I can tell your minds made up.