May I suggest cats
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Sorry bud, Nobody else can fill that dark hole created by continually abandoning yourself.
'Tis Better To Give Than Receive
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hey baby how low are your standards (☞ﾟ∀ﾟ)☞
I used to think they had finally arrived at "tits, pulse (optional)", but when faced with that, I bailed because I could not stand that person. Turns out they are more "I can listen to that person without getting the urge to run"... Damn brain overriding my dick.
I buried my standard years ago and mfs out here digging tunnels playing limbo with the bare minimum 😮💨
It's weird, because I've found looking for people to date very difficult. But I've found looking for people to chill with and have fun comparatively easy.
And occasionally, that friendship turns into a romance, which is an added bonus.
I really haven’t bothered to date in years for above stated reasons. When I meet new people, my intent is usually to get to know them and try to connect in some way. People tend to push to partner up or fuck within a few weeks of meeting and it’s almost invariably a resounding no from me. After that, ime, people don’t usually care to hang/ get to or get to know each other and either ghost or play endless phone tag until it’s not worth continuing. Add in me being a trans woman and the fact that 90% of men I meet online love to open with dick pics, VERY explicit flirting, or awkward confessional questions… and the men I meet irl are…. 😮💨 it’s like they’re racing the bar to the center of the earth.
There have been two people that I ended up with a much deeper connection with than expected over the last 3-4 years or so and both of those have turned into beautiful lasting friendships. Those are cherished and fulfilling in their own right but deeper romance feels like a pipe dream at this point.
People tend to push to partner up or fuck within a few weeks of meeting and it’s almost invariably a resounding no from me. After that, ime, people don’t usually care to hang/ get to or get to know each other and either ghost or play endless phone tag until it’s not worth continuing.
So, I'll admit I'm an Elder Millennial with a more archaic experience. But I did notice that hooking up (or trying to) inside the first three dates was a bad sign for the relationship.
That said, I've also found - personally and through friends - that you kinda have to mix and mingle until you find someone who clicks. And most people won't. But the ones that do - even if the relationship doesn't last - are people you can keep being friends with for the rest of your life.
I'll also say that attitudes around monogamy - especially early in a relationship - are all the fuck over the place. "Wait, are we exclusive or not?" is a conversation that has ended badly for a lot of people I know.
There have been two people that I ended up with a much deeper connection with than expected over the last 3-4 years or so and both of those have turned into beautiful lasting friendships. Those are cherished and fulfilling in their own right but deeper romance feels like a pipe dream at this point.
I mean that's about my average as well. Every couple of years I meet someone I really connect with. And then the game becomes finding time to be with these people as often as possible (which distance and free time, etc, can complicate).
But over a lifetime? That can add up to a lot of people. And you really only need one to click hard enough to be a spouse
I can relate. I just had a crazy sequence of events that upturned my life. Now I'm in therapy and on meds and it's a life changer.
This. There are things which are extremely hard to cope with without professional help. The meds will not walk the way you have to go, but maybe pave parts of it.
It seems to be consensus amongst pretty much every man I meet under 30 that we are completely finished with approaching women / asking them on dates or even really just signaling attraction at all.
Balls in your court women! Be brave cause we won't
Don't be weird, it goes both ways and requires effort from both parties.
I'm not being weird, I'm just keeping it real man. I wish it were egalitarian they way you suggest but that truly does not seem to be the case to me or anybody I know who is my age or younger.
A thing younger guys always struggle with
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Given the amount of weddings I’m attending this summer, it feels like your falling for a selection bias.
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Getting just a little makes it worse. At least in a sense of deprivation you get used to it but then when you get some you really notice its absence.
Hmm, i'll disagree. I've been single for over a dozen years now, and I feel like that little bit of human connection kept me from becoming even worse than I got. Better to have loved and lost, as they say. A little heartbreak is good for the soul.
Idk... Going on like 10 years now it hasn't gotten any better. It's like constantly on my mind that I'll be 40 this year and that my last relationship will more than likely be the last relationship.
her same tinder profile : must make 250K a year min, be 6 foot 3, min of 7 inches of cock
Delete the apps and talk to a real human my bro, you're broken.
Why are you like this?
Fr, everbody is getting less nowadays
if no one gonna do it, do you yourself, go and love yourself. take yourself to that date you want to go.
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