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[–] Arghblarg@lemmy.ca 24 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I didn't say it was anyone's objective to be attractive to me. And it isn't. I just have (as does everyone else) the agency to decide for myself what I find attractive or not.

Thank you for pointing out the possibly ambiguity of my response though, so I could clarify.

[–] four@lemmy.zip 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Do you decide what you find attractive? Or just observe and notice? Could you decide that something is attractive for you?

[–] Arghblarg@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Good observation; maybe 'decide' isn't the best word.

[–] Mountainaire@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

We happen to be attracted to whatever we are attracted to... It's subconscious, really, perhaps partly stemming back to childhood experienced and parentally instilled values...

[–] Velypso@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Yes, i decided by observing and noticing.

That's how attraction works.

Im not just by default attracted to one hair style or a specific skin color.

I observe and notice what attracts me and make a decision.