As someone who just graduated college, I have spent the last year learning what lots of people on here probably already know: if you can't get a job/education lined up, society (especially in the US) will do everything it can to make you feel like a pathetic failure. I applied for PhD positions and got in nowhere because academia in the US is unbelievably cooked (a whole other rant). Anecdotal evidence says that schools were accepting literally ~5 people out of an applicant pool of ~300 because of funding cuts, and the situation before funding cuts wasn't much better. But anyways, not getting into a PhD position is very far from the end of the world; I can just take a gap year and reapply.
However, I feel like my experience and the experiences of those around me (both of rejection and success) have really reinforced just how "connections" seem to be damn near the only thing that can get you a position at this point. I already knew how important connections were in the job search; I've heard all the sayings like "your network is your net worth" and "it's not about what you know, it's about who you know." That shit sucks. But I naïvely thought that somehow academics would be more insulated from this type of stuff. I knew that PhD applications were personal affairs on some level; you're applying to work with someone more than you're applying to a school as a whole. But people around me would talk about how they would talk to potential advisors at conferences and get lunch with their current research advisors. It felt like there was a social aspect to being in academia that I didn't know you had to participate in and that I just kinda didn't grasp. I like my advisors, but I usually kept my relationship with them to research and I have no idea how I'm supposed to get to know them better so they can write better rec letters for me and blah blah blah. I don't know if I'm over-analyzing my rejections (given that acceptance rates are literally 2%) but it feels like the fact that I didn't go out of my way to "network" hurt my chances. Anyways I now get another chance to apply to either an absolutely cooked higher education system or an absolutely cooked job market 
tl;dr: complaining about how I graduated college and didn't get into any PhD programs and do not have a job rn and I think the fact that I have a hard time "making connections" and "networking" probably hurt my chances
I have high charisma stats but I cant network. My charm comes from the fact that I'm really funny, but also that i'm a straight shooter, i'm quite open and I dont mince words. This is usually what mean people say as an excuse and much younger me was for sure doing that, but really I was holding back on saying nice things. This means I lose most of this if im interacting with people I dont like at all, and people you need to network with to get money are people I dont like at all. Dudebros sometimes fall into that category and cant tell the difference between open hostility and Sick Burns, so sometimes my vicious mockery has been mistaken for a toxic masculine bonding thing. I went to a real ass Six Sigma holiday party on acid with my friend who worked at a bank and i'm pretty sure I could have landed a six figure job despite telling these people to their faces that I want them to drop dead.
Tldr: its not really a bad thing to not be able to socialize well with awful people.