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This post contains content related to media piracy. I couldn't find any rules for this community and I don't know if it's allowed. I accept the risk of getting this post taken down or being banned without knowing the rules.

With that small disclaimer out of the way, let's tackle my question.

I'm a simple self hoster: I have single server made out of an Optiplex 3060 Micro (i5 8500T, 32GB, 14TB of storage in one drive), I use duckdns instead of a real domain and I have no supporting infrastructure. I don't really like watching things, I set up arr stack mainly because everyone says it's the best thing to use a homelab for.

My family have strong opinions on piracy and I know for a fact they wouldn't use my jellyfin, even if I tried to manipulate them, which btw is a really bad practice (if it's as common as responses under posts about getting people to use your homelab suggest).

I also have hard time getting them to even allow me to run my homelab (I'm a teenager, I live with my parents), because it takes space and uses power (for context idle is around 8W).

As I said, I don't watch things that often and even if I watch, I'm extremely monothematic, I watch basically only AOT and sometimes some random popular movie.

I understand that my situation is quite unique, but I find it hard to argue for Jellyfin+arrs when fmhy and countless reliable streaming sites exists.

I already made my mind, I'll stop using those services today. I'm interested how others look at this "problem" tho.

Are you hosting arr stack/plex/jellyfin?

How much is it utilized (in watch hours/week for example, mine was less than 2/week)?

Have you considered not using it?

If you stopped using it and went back, what happened, why did you change your mind?

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[–] GatesMcBalmer@lemmy.world 58 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Is your next post going to be in a baking comm asking people if they have considered just buying a loaf at the grocery? Its an important life lesson to get early that its OK that other people have different tastes and priorities than you do.

[–] PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 0 points 10 hours ago

That's an unnecessarily rude response. Even in the baking community, it should be fine to ask what goes into their decision to bake bread, or why they choose to bake bread instead of spending their time baking other things instead. Even if he already made up his mind, it's fine to be curious about the motivations others.

He didn't tell you what you can or can't do, or what you should or shouldn't do. He didn't jellyfin is bad or that self hosting in general is bad. He wasn't rude.

You say it's an important life lesson to get that it's ok for other people to have different tastes and priorities, but it's also healthy to ask people about those tastes and priorities.

[–] irmadlad@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

its OK that other people have different tastes and priorities than you do

There is a great book on this called the 'The Let Them Theory' by Mel Robbins. Stop wasting energy on things you can't control and stop comparing yourself to other people.

[–] Junkernaught@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

She stole that whole bit from someone else's poem. Check it out.

[–] irmadlad@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

That's a shame. I was unaware of that. Still....a good read with some good advice.

[–] Bananskal@nord.pub 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)