I am coming into this with sincerity because it is something I truly believe in. As a disclaimer, this is to cover people who, get angry because of being poked or already mentally disturbed. I am not including people who're angry through other means such as alcoholic rages, that's a different thing on its own.
And I know people are so going to probably bring up mental issues to contrast and compare. Please, this is not for that. This is not up for debate.
The reason I believe people who have anger issues are disrespected the most is because, I've been in their shoes. Plenty of times. It's a very awfully lonely and jarring world to be in when you're one of these types. It always feels like the world is constantly kicking you while you're down, it's not a great feeling to live with all of the time. The world is kicking at you and you feel unheard.
The online world treats people with anger issues like they're side show entertainment. Like "oh ho! he's angry! quick everyone, lets see how angrier he can get and he can't do shit because we're miles away from him and we're all behind keyboards! huhuhuhuhuhuh!". Friends and Family feel alienated around you, feel like they gotta walk on eggshells all of the time when it comes to engaging with you.
Therapists, Doctors, Psychologists just want to drug you up because they feel you're a lost cause. Society doesn't take you seriously, because they like to make things your fault all of the time. How many situations can you recall where you got angry because someone was knowingly instigating something with you and did everything in their power to make things hell for you? It happens in school a lot. It happens at work a fair deal.
And if you retaliate, there's this weird sensation society has where, even if you are in the right to react the way you did (violence aside), then they just see you as a wild animal that needs to be kicked to the side and away from everyone. It is very fucking weird and it is a real thing.
People act all so surprised when the buttons are pushed too much and then we reach dangerous levels that do involve violence. I'm sorry but I sympathize a lot with people who end up having to resort to violence when all options to handle things as civilly and peacefully as possible has been thoroughly exhausted and when nobody is listening to them at all. Mainly because, it is a situation that never should have gotten to, if people did fucking listen and cared.
So great, the individual who reacted angrily is now demonized, probably will get tossed in jail for however long and god forbid they realize they're in a world of shit, that they go off themselves when given the chance.
The moral of the matter is, the next time you're dealing with an angry person, you have to stop and think a little about what world they could be in, that could make them angry at all. You'll never know, if they're someone, who's been fucked with a lot, who feel unheard, who is disrespected and somebody who isn't actually even trying to turn lives upside down on purpose.
You'll be truly amazed at times, how an angry person can change a tune when you go the opposite direction of what they expect, than just adding fuel to the fire and making them the fault of everything.
On first thought, this reminds me of a story from highschool.
my one year younger sister always bullied me. She was the princess and I was the black sheep. She was also fit, and I a bit over weight (and we were poor/neglected). To sum it up, she had hella clothes, meanwhile I was sewing my skirts and stuff so I could keep wearing the few items I owned. I used to have dreams I had something "cool" to wear to school, wake up and realize I needed to get up earlier and wash my one of three shirts, or wear them dirty.
This day, she asked me to wear one of my shirts to school, I said no. Later that day, while passing in the hallway, during class time, so no one was around I saw her strutting in my shirt. She put a smug face on like "haha I did it anyway" and I pinched her in her arm. I was gonna keep walking but she then jacked me against the wall and starting yelling in my face. This caught attention from a teacher and we were sent to the office.
I was livid. I cannot hide my emotions for fuck all, least not when I was a teen. But my sister, put on her show. Charming, kind, "I dont know why she's so angry". I got in more trouble than her. She got nothing, and I was sent to in school suspension for three days, when shes the one (while yes i did pinch her) who escalated things even more.
She kept calm, and I did not. Thats the only reason she got off and I didnt.
She'd do this kind of thing at home too. She'd pick a fight with me by calling me names. Then we'd start fighting and my little brother would come to her defense, and next thing you know, me and the brother are now fighting. An adult would come in and my sister would be all, "they started fighting I tried to stop it, but they wouldnt". And then I would get introuble for being the oldest. My sister was never punished for calling me some of the most vile shit you could think of. I was always punished for defending myself.
I was marked an angry kid, but it was just the injustice I faced daily as the family scapegoat/black sheep.
I don't talk to that sister or brother anymore, at all.