Unpopular Opinion

This is the same person who DM'd me this, because another mod took action on their rule breaking.

Fat fucking neckbeards of moderators!! Take your 10-year old comment and shove it, asshole!!

There is a big difference between being angry and acting on that anger.

There are a lot of people who are just as angry as what you are describing, but don't act on it and don't take it out on those around them.

The anger is not the issue, its the lack of self control.

You don't have the right to make the people around you miserable, just because you are angry.

When people are walking on eggshells around you, it is because they are scared, because you have hurt them before, and they don't want to be hurt again.

end up having to resort to violence when all options to handle things as civilly and peacefully as possible has been thoroughly exhausted

The thing is, it seems like this just always happens to certain people and rarely to anyone else. I legitimately cannot imagine a scenario where I would be violent unless I'm in actual danger. Words are just too easy to ignore. Anyone who can be provoked like that is seriously fragile and needs to look inward for solutions.

[Re: Mental Issues] This is not up for debate.

You openly posted on the internet on a com about opinions. That's literally up for debate.

People act all so surprised when the buttons are pushed too much and then we reach dangerous levels that do involve violence. I'm sorry but I sympathize a lot with people who end up having to resort to violence when all options to handle things as civilly and peacefully as possible has been thoroughly exhausted and when nobody is listening to them at all. Mainly because, it is a situation that never should have gotten to, if people did fucking listen and cared.

It is your responsibility to control your behavior, yes. You can be angry without resorting to violence and you should. You'll never be able to control the actions of others, but that doesn't give you the right to jeopardise their safety. If you are resorting to violence that is undeniably evidence that you have not exhausted all other options--walk away, excuse yourself from the room, call someone else to talk too, get a different job. Yeah people should care, and not all of them do, but that's not an excuse for endangerment.

You'll never know, if they're someone, who's been fucked with a lot, who feel unheard, who is disrespected and somebody who isn't actually even trying to turn lives upside down on purpose.

Unfortunately none of this matters. Your intent doesn't negate your actions taken, you're not entitled to be heard, and your history does not excuse your future.

If you want to be a part of civil society you must operate with cohesion and with other people without infringing on their safety. If you cannot do that then you should seek professional help or isolate yourself before you do something that will end up with society sequestering you off in jail.

It don't matter what the reason. If someone is violent im outa there. If someone is unjustifiably angry (and im someone who does not go about antagonizing people) im out there. I don't have to deal with them. Guess what. I have my own issues to. I have been fucked with. I have to deal with my stuff but not someone elses.

As someone who's had some anger issues, it's all about learning to cope and how to handle those situations in a civil manner. I've cut some activities out of my life because they were too triggering for me. I've learned to chill out for most things but not all.

As others have mentioned, everyone gets angry, but not everyone lashes out. Sometimes you just have to eat a turd sandwich and move on. I wouldn't say it's a mental health condition, just lack of self control and coping mechanisms that would have ideally been instilled at a young age and cultivated through adulthood.

You'll be truly amazed at times, how an angry person can change a tune when you go the opposite direction of what they expect, than just adding fuel to the fire and making them the fault of everything.

That seems like a good way to encourage that person to escalate and repeat that behavior. I've had a sister that used to be in an abusive marriage. Appeasement to an entitled angry jerk was not the solution, did not prevent him from putting her head through drywall, did not make anybody happier.

Anger is an emotion of action and can be useful against things like injustice, but it sounds like you're talking about people that don't do anything to better their situation until it's too late and now it's everybody else's fault. Your example, anger about your coworkers being jerks, has many levels between asking them to stop (5% angry) and making them regret falling asleep during the HR managed active shooter training (100%). You're allowed to be angry. You're allowed to take action because of it. You're not allowed to take it out on others. You're not allowed to engage in anti social behaviors.

That sucks. I think the main issue is that many people with anger issues don't exhaust all other options and don't seek psychological help. Plus people who need psychological help are treated like shit in general, try dealing with depression or insomnia without getting called some variation of "lazy", often repeatedly by the same people even after you explained it to them.

On first thought, this reminds me of a story from highschool.

my one year younger sister always bullied me. She was the princess and I was the black sheep. She was also fit, and I a bit over weight (and we were poor/neglected). To sum it up, she had hella clothes, meanwhile I was sewing my skirts and stuff so I could keep wearing the few items I owned. I used to have dreams I had something "cool" to wear to school, wake up and realize I needed to get up earlier and wash my one of three shirts, or wear them dirty.

This day, she asked me to wear one of my shirts to school, I said no. Later that day, while passing in the hallway, during class time, so no one was around I saw her strutting in my shirt. She put a smug face on like "haha I did it anyway" and I pinched her in her arm. I was gonna keep walking but she then jacked me against the wall and starting yelling in my face. This caught attention from a teacher and we were sent to the office.

I was livid. I cannot hide my emotions for fuck all, least not when I was a teen. But my sister, put on her show. Charming, kind, "I dont know why she's so angry". I got in more trouble than her. She got nothing, and I was sent to in school suspension for three days, when shes the one (while yes i did pinch her) who escalated things even more.

She kept calm, and I did not. Thats the only reason she got off and I didnt.

She'd do this kind of thing at home too. She'd pick a fight with me by calling me names. Then we'd start fighting and my little brother would come to her defense, and next thing you know, me and the brother are now fighting. An adult would come in and my sister would be all, "they started fighting I tried to stop it, but they wouldnt". And then I would get introuble for being the oldest. My sister was never punished for calling me some of the most vile shit you could think of. I was always punished for defending myself.

I was marked an angry kid, but it was just the injustice I faced daily as the family scapegoat/black sheep.

I don't talk to that sister or brother anymore, at all.