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[–] huey_m@reddthat.com 0 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

Surely you can also see that, by positioning yourself as old and experienced, ie wiser, you are speaking condescendingly towards those you disagree with?

Do you not think you're being a bit condescending yourself in suggesting people go read a guide written by you in order to have a discussion with you? I think you're holding yourself and people who agree with you to a very different standard than those who disagree with you.

Regardless, my intent isn't to really be condescending, but you've been pretty tenacious in asking why I won't debate you... what else am I to do but explain why I've reached the position I have when you keep pressing and say that I should do a thing I've decided against doing as a rule?

You’ve already shown yourself to be fairly obstinate

Physician, heal thyself. You've pressed me for... what, half a dozen comments now? On literally nothing but saying I should debate you or others when I don't care to and explained why. I think you're quick to see qualities in others that you aren't realizing you have yourself.

In other words, I focus on swaying onlookers

I'm very aware of that, that's exactly what I'm uninterested in. I've moved past "debate" in the sense of a public disagreement and an attempt to sway people to my side... used to do that a lot, but I'm just over it at this point. I'm interested in real conversations and attempts to understand another person and another point of view, I explicitly do not like the kind of conversation that happens when people are trying to convince a third party. I think it lends itself to toxicity, condescension, basically the worst qualities that people associate with redditors, for good reason.

I also disagree

Okay. I disagree with your disagreement :). I think not offering any substantive rebuttal and simply saying "you don't know theory, go read this" is definitely a cudgel to dismiss opinions a person doesn't agree with without putting in any effort, and it's obviously a performative thing for onlookers. If you disagree, I'm comfortable with that.

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 2 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I never once suggested that people need to read a list compiled by me to have a discussion with me, so I'm not sure where that came from. The list isn't a prerequisite for discussion, neither Meow nor I implied that. I also said you're completely okay to not discuss with me, I also despise debate culture, getting cheap "wins," etc. I just pointed out why people may be "dogpiling" you, as you said. I'm fully comfortable with not having a discussion with you, I've said so multiple times, so I'm also not sure why you describe me of not understanding why you don't want to. I do understand.

[–] huey_m@reddthat.com -2 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

You were upset because you felt I was trying to position myself as wisened in order to be condescending. I'm pointing out that this wasn't my intention, I was doing so to explain why I don't do public debates regarding Marxism anymore, which you were arguing that I should probably be doing. You could not have understood that before I explained it, because you have no clue what my intentions are without me telling you, man.....

I think this is the end though, bud. Have a good one, but we just aren't looking for the same kind of conversations, man. I'm not interested in the debate that you are.

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 2 points 5 hours ago

I don't know what tour intentions are, and I didn't suggest that I did. I understand why you don't discuss Marxism, you told me already. I'm not sure why you think I'm forcing you to "debate me," I already explained that it's fine not to. Really not sure what you're trying to do here.