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People with Cluster B Personality Disorders, especially BPD, can y'all relate? (thelemmy.club)

submitted 4 days ago by may_be@thelemmy.club to c/mentalhealth@lemmy.world

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Even if you don't have them but relate, feel free to share. Even if you can't relate and just want to listen, that's fine, too. When I get an attachment, I want to BE a part of their body. I'm crazy and obsessive. I suspect BPD but don't know if I 100% have it, especially since I'm young, but I've always had an unstable or undefined sense of identity.

Even if I'm sure I'm a trans man, for example, one of my attachments was a cis woman who used to be trans a while ago before realizing it wasn't her and feeling dysphoric after identifying as a femboy. I'm trying to get over said attachment and be normal around people like her, but something in me thought it'd be the answer if I too was cis and a detransitioner and even though it's not me to be a girl, I wanted to repress my identity for a bit so I could be a woman, but then I see that I'm a man and repressing just makes it come back and the dysphoria doesn't go away at all.

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[–] dingus@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

If you want my two cents...forget the labels for "man" or "woman" or whatever you're thinking about. Just express yourself in ways that you like. Want to wear a dress one day with an elaborate long hairdo? Do it. Want to wear a suit the next day and buzz your hair short? Fucking do it. We are all just random living beings making shit up as we go.

I guess that's why I never understood the concept of being "trans" or "cis". Just be. Exist. Express yourself. Don't get caught up in these labels. There are no rules.

Imo, those labels are important for healthcare because it tells them what parts we have and what diseases we may or may not have. Beyond that, who cares?