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[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 2 points 21 hours ago

Can I jump of this allegory for a sec? I think I got lost. Are you referring to having kids yourself even though you know you have mental issues to work on? That is one of the reasons I hear for not wanting to have kids. If you don't want kids don't have them. I'm childfree myself.

If you want kids then have kids. If you have love and want to share it by bringing a baby into the world, good luck. We need people like that. Knowing that you have a messed up foundation will help you build a better one.

I was talking about this to my niece recently. Her dad is messed up, but less messed up then her grand dad. We try to heal the scares of the previous generation and not pass on anymore trauma. Plenty of people fail at that, but if you are asking the questions like 'Will I be a good parent?' then chances are you are doing it right.