Hi everyone,
I wanted to share a project I recently started working on called Tend (an Android app built to help you automate the scheduling of your social life).
The idea originally came from a discussion on r/fossdroid about how hard it is to keep in touch with friends and extended family without relying on algorithm-driven social media or bloated, cloud-based business CRMs.
Most "Personal CRM" apps require you to upload your contacts to a random server. I wanted something that was 100% offline, private, and simple.
What it does: You can think of it as setting up cron jobs for your relationships.
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Contact Cards: Create dedicated profiles for people you want to keep up with (Name, notes, phone, socials, etc.).
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Custom Frequency: Set a "check-in" schedule (e.g., every 14 days, monthly, quarterly).
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Smart Reminders: The app will notify you when it's time to reach out.
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100% Offline: Everything is stored locally on your device via SQLite/Room. No accounts, no telemetry, no cloud sync.
I’d love your feedback! Since this is in the initial development phase, I’m looking for feedback on the features and the UI.
Repository: Github: Github Repo Codeberg: Codeberg repo
Doesn't having an app for reminding about certain dates defeat the purpose of congratulating people about them? Isn't the whole thing in it showing that they are so important to you that you remember them? Why would your friends want to complicate your routine with date checking step, if the process can be automated, how that's different from sending you both a message from a bot?
Think of it this way: I feel theyre important enough for me to bother setting up a complicated system for them
if you see it from the other people prespective, they dont really know if you actually remember or you get reminded by some sort of system.
I understand this as an immediate reaction to software like this, but I have to disagree. I care about so many people… too many people. I want to keep up with them because our relationships are important to me. However, the human mind forgets stuff, even things that are important. Sure, I’ll remember someone’s birthday most of the time, but this is insurance that I won’t, it’s insurance that I won’t lose meaningful connections because I got too busy with work or passion projects.
But what if you forget? Why risk it when you don't have to? There is no shame in not remembering and needing to write it down. If you always remember than that's good for you but a lot of people don't.
Well not everyone remembers everything, even the most important things. Just like me, who always forgot where I put my smartphone after a couple of seconds, or even my partner's birthday. I'm the worst at remembering.
I am terrible at this. I have had to build the functionality of this app through other means. If this was available, I would have used it instead. I am going to use it now.
Sometimes you have to accept you need help, in my experience. Better this than losing people.