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[โ€“] Hueristic_Autistic@lemmy.world 1 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (1 children)

Impulse Control, is something people don't talk about as much as Emotional Regulation these days. Impulse Control matters a lot because it goes with emotional regulation, in the way that you can be sad but you don't slice your wrists. That's both working together, right? Now what if Impulse Control and Emotional Regulation are lost in a moment but to the extreme? That's when you have self-immolation in public kind of stuff because the ultimate loss of impulse control in a second can mean everything doesn't matter to that person. Then you have it the other way around, you're a city hall worker and you have someone screaming in your face about something absolutely pointless, you can't hit them or scream back at them. You can tell them to leave, you can call security but if you hit them, that would be a lack of impulse control and emotional regulation, they work together about 99.8% of the time, I shit you not. Emotional Regulation keeps you from getting too wound up or too low and that works together with impulse control. Like you could get super angry at your job and punch someone in the face but then you'd have no job and conversely you can't unload your life being sad onto people because then they'll become uncomfortable and again you might not have a job.

It's like when you see those people who jump into the drive-through windows into the fast food places and start hitting the workers, they're not only lacking emotional regulation that regulates, anger but also the impulse control that tells them they shouldn't do that action.

[โ€“] dingus@lemmy.world 1 points 19 hours ago

DBT techniques are great to read about on this. It teaches not only emotional regulation, but also tackles impulses with "distress tolerance" skills.