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Is there a professional address for non-binary people? (hexbear.net)
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My job has made me so used to calling people "sir" or "ma'am", but wtf to I say to an NB?

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[–] Trying2KnowMyself@hexbear.net 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

@JustSo@hexbear.net nailed it:

I think when you use one of those words that refers to an unbalanced power dynamic it can make people feel a variety of ways you don't necessarily intend.

The context I was talking about was as a customer, being called boss by someone in customer service, so much as I didn’t want there to be a power dynamic, there is one, and that’s what made it feel icky to me.

[–] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 6 points 2 weeks ago

That's fair. In kitchens acting professional isnt a thing so calling someone Boss doesnt carry any connotations if they arent your boss.