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I just wanted to check, because sometimes in sapphic spaces, I feel like I'm intruding. Sometimes it's made explicitly clear that I'm not welcome, which can be quite hurtful if the event or community describes itself with terms I use for myself, such as "sapphic" or "wlw". In this case though, this community is named "lesbians", so I wouldn't take it personally if y'all would prefer that bi women don't post or comment here, I just want to be clear about expectations; I once had someone accuse me of cultural appropriation for having carabiners on my tool harness, so I've ended up becoming a tad hypervigilant about overstepping.

Regardless of what the answer to this post is, it might be worthwhile to put something in the community info

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[–] Hazel@piefed.blahaj.zone 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

cultural appropriation for having carabiners on my tool harness

For culturally appropriating... checks notes ...the Holy Roman Empire?

[–] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

For culturally appropriating from lesbians apparently. Which was utterly absurd, because part of why I had a tool harness was because I'm the kind of queer woman who goes around fixing things for fun! Which is extremely gay of me (and indeed, this aspect of being unabashedly myself is great for improving my dating pool. Many sapphic women dig the vibe, and it also tends to repel the kind of men who I would rather not interact with at all)

[–] Hazel@piefed.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 months ago

Maybe they just wanted you to stop because it was turning them on too much! 😌