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I just wanted to check, because sometimes in sapphic spaces, I feel like I'm intruding. Sometimes it's made explicitly clear that I'm not welcome, which can be quite hurtful if the event or community describes itself with terms I use for myself, such as "sapphic" or "wlw". In this case though, this community is named "lesbians", so I wouldn't take it personally if y'all would prefer that bi women don't post or comment here, I just want to be clear about expectations; I once had someone accuse me of cultural appropriation for having carabiners on my tool harness, so I've ended up becoming a tad hypervigilant about overstepping.

Regardless of what the answer to this post is, it might be worthwhile to put something in the community info

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What I find weird is that bi women tend to overwhelmingly be regarded as straight women pretending to be gay and bi men tend to be labelled as gay men pretending to be straight (my brother's bi). Very inconsistent bigotry.