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for sure! that's kinda what i was trying to express: bad faith actors often try to gotcha people or make them look bad under the guise of "just asking questions" (i believe the slang term for this is "JAQing off"). but an overly defensive posture against this kind of thing on this site often leads to ND users catching strays for actually asking good faith questions.
This isn't very important to the immediate issue, but the thing with jaq-offs is that they are trying to advance certain conclusions in a deniable way by phrasing it as a question. Any answer given is kind of immaterial. E.g. "why do poor black people commit more crime than poor white people?" to spread racist ideas. You can do it in a debate, but it's more present in monologues and open forums.
A gotcha is about either responding to someone or, especially, asking a question to lay a rhetorical trap so you can bait someone and then attack them with some kind of meaningless cheapshot like appealing to hypocrisy. It is overwhelmingly more prevalent in debate, and people notoriously also call something a gotcha that is a legitimate counterargument that they don't like (famously Sarah Palin did this).
Edit: I agree with your actual point as I understand it, to be clear
Yeah, "proving me wrong is a gotcha and you're a debate nerd" is fairly common (not just here, this is everywhere). As you've pointed out before "nerd" (and associated terms that end up just being synonyms) can often be used as thinly veiled (not necessarily even intentional, often subconscious) proxies for ableism - they're used to refer to people who express themselves in ways the speaker dislikes.