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My wife's side of the family is weird. We don't have to go to their Christmas, but we did get dragged to their pre-Christmas party, which is supposed to be just for the couples with kids, who get together and then the kids make cookies. My wife thinks it's my mother-in-law's revenge because we can't have kids. We were so out of place there.
So many Christian relatives. So many weird looks. One person asking if my wife's hair is real. (It is.) But we did get ourselves cookies by ourselves after the party, because the Christmas cookies weren't for adults 🙃
Oh, I so badly want to know why they asked.
I'm 50/50 on afro, or blue. EDIT: probably not the former since its your wife's famile...
Just straight, brown hair, oddly enough. I think some people don't really know the difference between drag queens and trans women, and then assume that all trans women wear wigs because drag queens tend to.
??? That- just doesn't make any sense. Yeah yeah bigotry is always irrational yadda yadda but why the hell would anyone think that? Like, with drag it makes sense, because they need to be able to "turn it off", but a woman who dresses and presents herself as a woman 24/7?
A lot of ignorant bigots think that trans women are "advanced gay"
They can't be asked to tell the difference.
If being a lesbian trans women means being advanced gay, then I mean that kinda checks out.