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So a few years ago I worked as a stripper for like a year and a half to pay for some things. Looking back I really regret doing it. I'm always about people finding out about it in the future and it effecting my employability. So far nobody except a few friends know about and I hope to keep it that way but I'm worried that in the future it could come back to bite me.

Is there anyway I can keep this thing permanently hidden and if not then what should I do in the future if someone finds out? Like, how badly would it effect my image and is there anything I can do about it? What do I say to people of they find out?

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[–] frisbird@lemmy.ml 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

You're paranoid. No really. When it happens the first time, it will make time go slow, your heart will race, you will feel like you're on fire, your pits will sweat, and you will have no idea what you're gonna say.

And afterwards, you'll think about that moment and cringe and mention it to someone who was there and they'll tell you they didn't think you were freaking out and in fact you handled it like a badass and everyone gained a newfound respect for you that day.

Seriously. Shame is powerful because of you, not because of them. You'll get through it. You'll end up more powerful, not less.

[–] Muckle@aussie.zone 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Has something similar happened to you? You seem to have a good understanding of the situation at hand.

[–] frisbird@lemmy.ml 2 points 3 days ago