Hi, current adult entertainer here to try to reassure you.

If you don't aspire to work as/in any of the following:

• teacher
• childcare
• politician
• lawyer
• law enforcement
• employee of a religious institution

then career-wise, you're golden. With the rise of easy AI deepfakes that effectively neuter any "damming photographic evidence," my guess is those categories are going to start dwindling, even.

If someone at your workplace tries to "out" you, more likely their ass is getting sacked for harassment than you getting any direct repercussions (though obviously it could be socially damaging and that's still not ideal).

Social reputation is another animal and largely depends on your family and friend group dynamics. I'm lucky enough to have a sex-positive immediate family and friends, and after years of trying to hide how I was affording college and NYC rent, I just got sick of trying to maintain elaborate lies. So mom knows I'm a dominatrix now, lol. But there are plenty of family members and several friends I either still actively hide that info from, or at least don't go out of my way to offer it.

You and I have one lucky thing in common which is that as live performers, "outing" us is a double edged sword that also damages the reputation of the accuser. "If you're claiming I was an adult entertainer, then you would have to have been a patron of adult entertainment to witness it." Mutually assured destruction, in a way.

Keep on living your life as discreetly about your past as you feel comfortable, and it's very unlikely anyone will be able to, let alone want to, damage your reputation. If some fucking scumbag decides to go there, see if a lawyer can help you sue the fuck out of them for invasion of privacy and defamation (they'll probably drop the accusations because people like that are little bitches who fold when anyone stands up to them).

Feel free to DM me anything else you might wanna discuss. Hope this helps! <3

You're paranoid. No really. When it happens the first time, it will make time go slow, your heart will race, you will feel like you're on fire, your pits will sweat, and you will have no idea what you're gonna say.

And afterwards, you'll think about that moment and cringe and mention it to someone who was there and they'll tell you they didn't think you were freaking out and in fact you handled it like a badass and everyone gained a newfound respect for you that day.

Seriously. Shame is powerful because of you, not because of them. You'll get through it. You'll end up more powerful, not less.

Genuine question, how would someone finding out about it affect your employability? Unless the person who finds out is your boss and he has a grudge against sex workers, it's not your employer's job to be policing your past actions if they have no bearing on your current employment.

How on earth would they find out?