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I do think the last thing isn't true. Some people are just naturally physically attractive with very little effort. Just like some men are naturally kind, funny, and fun to be around. What is easy for one isn't for another.

There's defs a spectrum but maintaining beauty isn't just how your body looks. It's care washing and shaving, keeping abreast of fashion trends, skincare (sun, lips, pimples etc), knowing how to dress to set off your features, exercising, diet management etc.

There are very few people in the world that can just roll out of bed and look handsome in a street appropriate sense. True some people have it easier than others and some have more interest than others but it's always work. It's just you only see the finished product.

All that said, living with a lack of acknowledgment of your looks does hit you sometimes.

For sure, I'm plain boarding on ugly. I've never been tremendously interested in performing beauty and at my age as a women no matter how much effort I put in I'll never be visible again. It is what it is, we all just play our hands.

I'm sure everyone carries their own secret desires and anguishes, they're not evenly doled out but all you can do is try make the world kinder for those that come after, raging about it will just get you tired and bitter.