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Which country are you in, cause in the west, parents owe their children many things such as food, shelter, clothing, and education. Morally you owe her nothing unless there was a loan I guess.
I was born in Mainland China, now living in the US.
I think the general sentinment in China is the kids owe their parents, especially their mother, for the fact that she gave birth... and also for basic things like feeding them and providing shelter and safety.
My mom taught me: “世上只有妈妈好” ("Only your mother is good" or something like that... it's a lulluby thing and told me to distrust everyone else and only listen to her)
I actually remember in a World Language class in highschool (in the US), so obviously I pick the easiest, I already know a bit of Chinese from when I was in school in China, and I had this Chinese/Taiwanese (forgot which one) teacher that explained the difference between Asia and the West.
Somthing like: In Asia, the children owes their parents, in the West the parents owe their kids...
And like I remember during class I was kinda just half-daydreaming and thinking about stuff... and like... it kinda just hit me...
Like... It's such a stark contrast in philosophy
My head just hurt so much, no amount of therapy can fix my fucked up brain from all these years...
My older brother is a conspiracy nutjob and a racist ethnic supremacist, all thanks to my parents, and they're suprised how he turned out that way when their philosophy/politics is already half way there.
Literally, like the first thing I was told by my mom right after we landed in JFK airport was that "CPS = Bad" don't talk to them...
(edit: CPS = Child Protective Services, US)
I mean, sure I don't trust authorities either... but...
Red flag much?
Have any parents actually told their kids that "CPS is bad"
I mean... i don't even know anymore
Government is scary
Parents are scary
School is scary
Your peers are scary and will bully you
Outside is scary
This is what I learned from my existence in life
I'm sorry you've had to experience such suffering.
Seeing this first hand with a 1st generation immigrant mother(not mine) I am getting to know as an adult.
The western philosophy is a bit different than it was explained. In the West the parents are responsible for the kids. They brought them into the world and they are responsible for raising them to be productive members of society. You don't owe the kids, but you do have to raise them and look after them. If you don't cps goes after the adult.
Behaving as your mom does is being asked to be treated like a child or a baby while still demanding the respect of being an adult.