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I have a couple that lives above my apartment and the guy regularly workouts in his apartment. His workouts happen 4-5 times a week sometimes twice a day. Weekdays he'll do a workout 630am and play electronic music at the same time. Sometimes he'll workout again 530pm.

I know the sound I'm hearing are the result of dumbells/barbells bouncing on the floor because he's doing 6 reps and dropping the weights on the last one. He will do a few sets. Workouts last anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour.

I've tried getting the attention of building management but they don't seem to want to get involved. When I initially complained, they reached out via email to my neighbor and he responded that he was away on vacation.

As retaliation, for the past week I started blasting music all day (we both work from home) right when he starts he workout. I can hear him scrambling trying to find a way to soundproof the floors. Him and his girlfriend can't get into bed until I turn off the music. So far I haven't had any of the other neighbors complain about the music (I hardly see them). I stopped for a couple days to see if he would stop working out, but he was back at it again and I immediately turned on the music again.

For the record, I've never seen/met him in person.

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[โ€“] kindnesskills@literature.cafe 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Regsrdless of if the weights are falling or bouncing or being dropped: What about the actual suggestion of communicating with the neighbour? I notice you don't reply to those in the comments.

[โ€“] yonderbarn@lazysoci.al 1 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I don't think this is the type of individual that wishes to engage in good faith communication. What kind of person thinks it's reasonable to deadlift over someone's bedroom 630 in the morning?

I've known plenty of people who are sociable but thoughtless.

I know I myself have been a nuisance without realising it, and I am grateful for each person who have told me when I've been rude or hurtful. It's how I have learned to be more considerate in general, as well as cease the immediate behaviour to protect the relationship.

Not everyone will be accommodating, but you will never know unless you try.

[โ€“] badgerson@feddit.dk 4 points 2 days ago

Sure but that's still just an assumption. Please at least try to talk to him in person