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My faculty advisor for my Ph.D. insulted my work to the other research assistants (he thought) behind my back. Should I find a new advisor? (hexbear.net)
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Earlier this week my advisor was in an online meetings with the other RAs, I was doing other duties at the time, so I arrived late. He brought up a delay I guess I caused on a previous project (I don't recall anything that was particularly long, I think he may have been referring to me pointing out an issue with the math he would have preferred to ignore, but that could just be me being catty) and called my code 'messy' and said to not use my code, but instead use his vibe-coded script that gave better results (It was incorrect, surprise). Today he yelled at me for not getting some work done and I blew up at him, and recused myself from the project (today was the deadline to submit the paper, so that was kind of a dick move).

Now that I am less angry and thinking more clearly, I can't help but think that this is a massive break of professional decorum, and breaks my trust in him entirely. I don't feel that I can really trust him to write proper reviews of my work or be relied upon as a reference.

Am I correct in feeling this way, or am I overreacting?

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[–] DogThatWentGorp@hexbear.net 9 points 2 weeks ago

Am I correct in feeling this way, or am I overreacting?

From what you're saying it sounds like you're completely in the right and framing this as "I've tried to work with him but he has only gotten increasing belligerent as time has gone on and he's gotten used to me" you have a strong reason.

And if he's putting you on blast to other RAs I'm sure you can include you overheard it and maybe whoever is in charge of that whole situation looks into things that way too idk. Also like you mentioned, not the first to quit working with him, thats a strong point in your favor too. Can't imagine that goes unnoticed along with him making dogwater ass SlopCode.

Feels like one of those things that gets worse not better as time goes on. I'd 86 out of there. And if they try/suggest to have you work it out with him I'd probably call the bluff and refuse. Make it clear it's really serious.