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Did you sneak around and do things you were told not to? Probably.
While doing so, did you have the context that you shouldn't do it? Maybe. Sometimes the learning happens when you get caught, get hurt or have other consequences.
Sure, the answer is education. Tell them that they shouldn't do and why. Hopefully, the guilt/shame/pain of doing the thing they know is incorrect will be enough of a deterrent, but adults are fallible and kids cannot be expected to be better at it than adults who also have vices they know intellectually are bad. I don't want to "completely control" my children, but I do want to prevent harm. Same way we put guard rails at the edge of a cliff.
Just to be clear:
Are you recommending that we just sit back and let kids random-walk through tiktok? At what age should algorithm-dopamine-drug-app be allowed? There are studies out there showing that this stuff is harmful to ADULTS and this thread is about known impacts on kids. We prevent kids from smoking or drinking. Why do you think preventing access to social media like this is a step too far?
There's also a question of age. I'm talking as a parent of a pre-teen. I need these controls where I can get them because the internet is a dopamine machine. It's a real challenge to limit access to it and my kid isn't prepared to stop watching tiktok the same way they aren't prepared to stop eating candy. I can physically limit the candy in the house, but guess where I find rogue candy wrappers? Maybe by the time they are 15, I'll have taken the training-wheels off, in which case we probably agree.
Finally, there's an additional context for parents that is cultural context: My kid has never watched squidgames, five nights at freddy's or stranger things. Many, maybe even most, of his peers have, and that leaves him out of those conversations. There are threads up in this post that haunt me: Am I preventing my child from being able to socialize because I won't let them play/watch that I think is unacceptable? I don't want roblox, fortnight, or predatorily-monitized games in my kid's hands until they are ready.
I recently relented on fortnight. My kid spent about $20 of their money on skins and a battle pass. I asked them recently if it was worth it. They said, "no". I also recently let them create a roblox account. It took about 2 hours for them to determine the whole game was dumb. I think I'm a good parent.