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Part of the toxicity is refusing to listen to advice from "females"
Ye, that's all cool and good. But people aren't frozen images. A guy without sheets was a baby, a boy, a teen and then an adult. Imho saying it's the dad's fault that a guy doesn't have sheets is overly reductionist.
And it's imo also wrong to willy-nilly attribute it to toxic masculinity, because toxic masculinity isn't about men per se. Everyone, all sexes and genders, can exhibit toxic masculine behaviour. That's the "neat" part, which I think everyone should have down by now.
Part of - or rather the main job of - being a teen is refusing to listen to advice from your parents. Yes, disclaimer here, dislcaimer there, there will be endless cases where it's actually toxic masculinity manifest. But why water down the terms, when there's many other more simple explanations.
Another part of it stems from raising boys this way.
We can do better for boys to help shape them into better men is the point.