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Women are being abandoned by their partners on hiking trails. What’s behind ‘alpine divorce’?
(www.theguardian.com)
this post was submitted on 17 Mar 2026
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Some of these comments are absolutely disgusting, many of you guys desperately need to talk to a therapist. If you read a story like this and feel the need to defend your gender identity, you have some deep-seated insecurity which you should take seriously before it starts harming your relationships with others. I am saying this as a man who had deep-seated insecurity which took a heavy toll on my relationships before seeking years of therapy. It's not as expensive as it sounds, I promise, and it could totally change your life for the better.
+1
I’m honestly ashamed of my sex.
I get it, I’ve witnessed guys have gut wrenching experiences with women, but… come, on. Do y'all have to internalize that as misogyny?
what if my therapist helped me identify that it was my unreliable girlfriends who were the problem in the relationship, and not myself, and helped me stop dating people who were seeking to exploit me through emotional manipulation and victim-framing narratives rather than taking accountability for their own choices?
and after that my life improved immensely and my family and other relationships grew?
I'm really glad to hear that therapy helped you, thank you for sharing that - I hope that helps other men who have similar struggles as you to take the plunge and get the help they need.
On a personal note, though, I just had a quick look at your comments and honestly, it feels like you still have a lot of unresolved issues here that you'd benefit from getting off your chest in a safe environment, so I'd suggest more therapy. I'm sorry that people have hurt you, and that isn't your fault, but if you continue to let it dominate your life, it will hurt you in ways that you'll never really understand.
Much love & solidarity.
Right, because you are clearly a therapist and my comments that you find disagreeable clearly mean I have unresolved issues... because if I was 'healthy' I'd be in full agreement with you, right? It can't be there are multiple legitimate viewpoints and people have difference experiences. Nope.
You piss and moan about men, but I doubt you self-reflect enough to ask yourself why it is you have to shame and belittle others if you are such a 'secure' individual. Probably because you are still massively insecure and intolerant of anyone who doesn't share your views on gender and you are projecting your 'redemption narrative' onto everyone else.
To me your post reads like someone who is desperately virtue signaling they are 'one of the good guys!' I'm sure plenty of your exes would disagree.
And the irony of my experience is that your reply, is ALWAYS the one I get for sharing my experiences. 'oh no if women hurt you you clearly are forever in need of therapy forever because you can't ever move on if you mention it'. As it isn't a massive the issue with men isn't that they are constantly and endlessly shamed and dehumanized the second they express negative experiences with women. It's always their fault and their burden to never be publicly expressed.
Apparently I'm only 'healed' if I only ever talk about women as as victims of male abuse... never the fact that many women are awful people, because women are just people like men and both men and women are objects and subjects of abusive behaviors.
I'm not shaming or belittling you, I applaud you for seeking out therapy and I encourage you to continue to do so.
Can I ask what made you consider therapy in the first place?
No, you are shaming and belittling men.
And now you are trying to cast aspirtions that my 'therapy' is fake and false because it didn't lead to the same conclusion as yours. Just like the idiots I meet who tell me if I am not in life-long therapy I must be emotionally damaged... which always comes from people who have spent their life in therapy never resolving their own issues. Project, project, project.
Post-edit reply: I'm not saying anything disparaging about your theraputic journey - again I applaud you for doing it, and I encourage you to continue. I think that's really healthy. But you have to realize, that what you're doing here, is you are taking something I wrote, which wasn't aimed at you, personally - that's a classic sign of an insecure person, right? Again, no shame there, I want to help you become the best version of yourself that you can be.
Nah I'm calling you out on your sexist commentary that men need therapy if they doubt some bullshit rage bait article that is trying to claim all men are plotting to abandon their girlfriends on the tops of mountains, based on one lady's teary eyed tiktok vid.
The entire thing is absurd and manufactured to illicit outrage based on forced gender generalizations, and lots of folks here and eating it up. All you have to do is make the story a gay couple, or a non-romantic relationship, and the entire thing would collapse.
Do you think it would be as equally as 'outrageous' if it was a gay couple?
That's not what I said - it's totally understandable to doubt the veracity of the story, or to call it ragebait, and so on. I completely understand all of that, and actually I broadly agree.
What I'm actually talking about is how volatile some of these commenters are, who see a story like this, and react very strongly to it, who get really really upset and angry about the story. An emotionally well-adjusted person can just say, "this story is bullshit" without seeing it as a personal attack, right?
I can clearly see that a lot of people are being triggered by this story, which suggests to me that they would benefit from therapy, so that they can learn to manage their triggers and emotions better. Again, there's no shame in being triggered or upset by a story like this, but if it gets someone so worked up that they need to go to war in the comments over it, that's what's happening, and therapy is the most helpful way to learn how to cope with problems like that.
I'm just confused now, because it sounds like you are talking about yourself and now doing a self-therapy session here in these comments about yourself. lol
Well, I suggest speaking to a therapist, and sharing this thread with them, and talking it through with them, I'm sure they can really help a lot.
Right, anyone who disagrees with you or has a difference perspective than you, needs therapy.
Right, because if they were well-adjusted, they'd agree with you.
Why don't we just make therapy mandatory for everyone? We can put them in therapy camps... until they all agree with you. Then the world would be so much magically better!
It isn't that you disagree with me, loads of people disagree with me all the time, and I can count on one hand the number of people I have suggested therapy to.
I promise you, I know you don't believe me, but I am trying to help you.
No. What you are doing is assuming the moral high ground under the guise of 'therapy'. It's shitty and manipulative and if you had any legit knowledge of therapy you'd know that it's an incredibly shitty thing to do to another person.
Because you are tying to 'win'. You want to feel 'big'. And in order to do that you need to put me down and tell me that I'm flawed and awful and only 'therapy' will heal me. You are stoking your own ego by creating a narrative where you are wise and helpful and I am sad and ignorant and can't see the error of my ways that you can. Because apparently you have some sort of deep insight into me based on a handful of internet comments you dislike...
Does it occur to you how ridiculous and arrogant that might be?
I'm sorry you feel that way, but your feelings are totally valid. I promise, I'm not trying to win, and I don't think any of those negative things about you, I'm just talking to you, man to man. If it helps we can take this discussion to DMs.
Dude, you're not my therapist and you aren't going to be. Your need to assume that role is pretty fucked up. But I'm sure you don't see it that way.
From where I stand it sounds like you are the one with unresolved issues that needs to project them onto others under the false presumption this makes you a 'good' person.
Not any different than a Karen who thinks they are 'protecting' the neighborhood when the verbally assault and threaten kids for riding their bicycles on the sidewalk because it is 'dangerous' for them, that is the 'energy' I am getting from your routine here.
You are assuming a self-appointed role based on a fiction in your own mind that has no basis in a greater reality or context, but is a projection of your own egotism about yourself and your 'story' being generalized to other people you know nothing about.
I know I'm not, and I'm not trying to be, I'm trying to encourage you to seek out a therapist yourself.
Your feelings are valid, and I apologise if it came across that way, I definitely could have worded it better. It's okay to be insecure, there's nothing there to be ashamed of, as I wrote in my own post, I struggled a lot with insecurity myself.
Two people, can just not be right for eachother. It's okay to date someone and not have it not work out.
Totally. But that's not often how people see things when they are emotionally charged or the relationship was fraught from the start. And a lot of people engage in self-fulling prophecies or self-destructive behaviors. Many people only pursue relationships they know are going to fail, for example.
You also can try to break up with someone and have them physically attack you and stalk you for weeks later and they don't back off until you threaten them with legal/police action. You never know how people are going to react.
This is true. It took me three years one time to get rid of, a well, we will call a pest. Three years. Aweful. I don't harbor any hate to them anymore though, Ive healed and found myself.
But, as Im trying to teach my young son right now, we can't control what other people do or say, we can only control how we respond to it. Noting, there is a big differene in reacting, and responding. Lessons I wish I got as a kid ya know? Its good stuff.
You should book another therapy session because you still obsess over those ex girlfriends daily.