Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
- Please follow the rules of the lemmy.blahaj.zone instance.
- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
- Gatekeeping will not be tolerated.
- Please be kind and respectful to all.
- Please tag NSFW topics.
- No NSFW image posts.
- Please provide content warnings where appropriate.
- Please do not repost bigoted content here.
This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
view the rest of the comments
I always end up making sort of my ideal self, or as close as I can. Tall, lean, cute perky small to medium boobs, cute tight little butt, abs, pale af. I never know what to do with the hair because I end up not really liking any of the options, but I always go for completely black or completely white hair, depending on what looks best with the games graphics. It does always bother me how limited the body mod options are. If they have piercings at all you get to choose from like 3 or 4 premade stacks that are usually completely uninspired and the only customization is the color. Tattoos are almost as bad, but they're usually really boring or overcomplicated and if you're lucky enough to be able to pick more than one it's obvious which ones go together because all the others clash. And the face tattoos, like hardly anyone in real life gets a face tattoo and in some games that's literally all you get. I dream of the day I find a game with the piercing and tattoo customization I long for. Alas I might need to make it myself if I ever want it to exist.
As for how it's changed, I started choosing women characters. Before I cracked my egg I always made a nonhuman male character if I could (the less human the better), or a generic stripped down male if there were no nonhuman options. I was pretty deep in my gender mask for a long time, not even letting myself act feminine in perfect privacy. I really wish there were more games with gender nonconforming customization options because while I like playing as a woman in games, it just doesn't hit the same playing as a cis woman as it does playing as a trans woman.