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Flirting (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 day ago by electric_nan@lemmy.ml to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

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Hi friends. Is it fucked up to flirt with someone with no intention of taking it further? I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship. Sometimes I crave a little validation from strangers. I'm not going to cheat on my partner, but I do have a need to feel desirable to others. I don't feel like a bit of flirting is a betrayal of my relationship, but I'm less confident about how other people feel. Like, I don't want to waste someone else's time, but I guess maybe I am leading people on a bit if I chat with them without mentioning my partner.

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[–] 1dalm@lemmy.today 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ask your partner if they are okay with it.

If you aren't comfortable asking your partner if they are okay with you flirting with other people, then it's not okay.

[–] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm comfortable in terms of my partner. I'm specifically asking about the other people.

[–] 1dalm@lemmy.today 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If you think you are making other people uncomfortable then you should stop.

[–] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 day ago

I don't think I am? I definitely don't want to.