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You want to flirt with someone, there's bound to be people who want to be courted, but if there's explicit consent then the relationship between the Flirter and the Flirted on crumbles, because the thrill is in either being dominated or dominating others. This relationship dynamic is impossible to resolve, at best you can create a 3rd space where you let people consent to non-consensual acts.
That is an application of Dialectical materialism.
Apologies if this was too complicated.
I mean: In order to know if it's okay to do a to a individual you have to ask them for consent. Every time yes, every time.
If this process is too bothersome and you want to simplify it, you have to create a rules based society where everyone knows and is taught the rules.
The obvious issue, that stands out, is not everyone might want to be like you, so what do you do with them? What do you do if someone doesn't want to flirt or be courted? Some women might like being cat called, for instance, I don't like that.
Now I want to tell the person to fuck themselves in response? am I allowed to do that? Or should I be polite? What if I don't mind being told "Screw you B***h" but I hate flirting? So how's that fair that he can flirt with me and I can't insult him?
The big question, the antithesis to the poster is - A individual who wants long-term relationships acquired through flirting , but just like the poster won't disclose this upfront
But the poster, the thesis, - A individual who wants short-term relationship acquired though flirting , but **won't disclose it upfront. **
Common aspects: Flirting, Not disclosing their intentions
Clashing interests: Wants short term play, Wants a long term relationship.
Definitions: Relationship = The interaction cultivated between two individuals. Long term = Not infinite, could be a week, could end up being 10 years, 40 years etc. Shot term = Right now, not concerned with the future developments.
Individual = someone who made their own choice, regardless if there is or isn't a collective rule that's supposed to be followed. It could be aligned or misaligned.
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