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Flirting (lemmy.ml)
submitted 22 hours ago by electric_nan@lemmy.ml to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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Hi friends. Is it fucked up to flirt with someone with no intention of taking it further? I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship. Sometimes I crave a little validation from strangers. I'm not going to cheat on my partner, but I do have a need to feel desirable to others. I don't feel like a bit of flirting is a betrayal of my relationship, but I'm less confident about how other people feel. Like, I don't want to waste someone else's time, but I guess maybe I am leading people on a bit if I chat with them without mentioning my partner.

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[โ€“] SerialExperimentsGay@hexbear.net 6 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

deceiving someone for attention

pre-mediated deception

incel ass logic

[โ€“] Dirt_Possum@hexbear.net 3 points 7 hours ago

I remember in the past seeing passing mention that hexbear had an incel problem but I mostly disregarded it because it seemed like it would get shut down quickly. I also have a lot of empathy for lonely men (and all lonely people) in this fucked up society even if I have zero tolerance for using that as an excuse for misogyny. But every now and then a thread will come up that really does confirm there is still an undercurrent of incel "thought" even on hexbear.