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How can I wear a skirt at work if I'm not religious? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 days ago by Caesium@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Sorry for the weird question, don't know how else to word it. Basically I'm job hunting and I'm realizing the dress code is gonna be an obstacle.

I exclusively wear skirts and dresses. Not for a religion -- I'm agnostic -- but for sensory reasons. I hate pants. I hate how they feel on my legs and I haven't worn them in almost 10 years now. I understand the need to wear pants for some jobs because they're ultimately safer than a flowy skirt, but one of the jobs I've applied to is a bank. I doubt the building is a skirt deathtrap behind the scenes.

Honestly the idea of having to wear pants is so upsetting I'm breaking down over it. It's so stupid but after I finally found a way to feel comfortable when I started wearing skirts, I don't think I can go back even if the job is better than my current one.

My only idea is to get some kind of doctors note but even that seems unlikely. Hoping for other ideas here.

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[–] GrantUsEyes@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Oooof, I know exactly what you are talking about. Wild how some people lose all decorum when they encounter someone any flavour of non-conforming out and about, right? In my case it's just how I look,no matter how I dress, I've dealt with it all my life. But honestly props to your friend for just being his authentic self, It takes courage.

[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago

I enjoy seeing people be different!! I admit I may stare for a second but thats because I find it interesting.

Sometimes when out with the in laws they have to whisper among themselves about how "weird" something is or outright be like "is that person gay?" And I'll say I'm not sure, it doesn't affect you, and their clothes are fabulous arent they??

Fricken old boomers man. They love to whisper among themselves at anyone who's not straight and white. Its their culture.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago

I found the reactions to be quite funny.
They werent doing it in avery obvious way but I catched their glance once the noticed the foot gear and the behavior changed so I knew what they were trying to achieve when angling the phone a certain way.

Honestly if it helps promoting the takedown of bs gender society rules and normalize so everyone can wear what they like, I'm (and my mate are) all for it.
Because remember: Men wore heels originally ;)