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Flirting (lemmy.ml)
submitted 20 hours ago by electric_nan@lemmy.ml to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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Hi friends. Is it fucked up to flirt with someone with no intention of taking it further? I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship. Sometimes I crave a little validation from strangers. I'm not going to cheat on my partner, but I do have a need to feel desirable to others. I don't feel like a bit of flirting is a betrayal of my relationship, but I'm less confident about how other people feel. Like, I don't want to waste someone else's time, but I guess maybe I am leading people on a bit if I chat with them without mentioning my partner.

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[–] Dirt_Possum@hexbear.net 3 points 5 hours ago

What does that even mean?

I'm assuming you are referring to OP saying

if I chat with them without mentioning my partner.

What all of a person's life story must they share and not "omit" before they should be given the green light to flirt with someone? There is all sorts of information that literally anyone would leave out of a conversation with a stranger (or even not a stranger) that would change the nature of the conversation. Omission is not deception.

Also, OP says they are up front about their relationship if it comes up and they wear a ring to indicate that status. They are not even omitting the information you seem to think they're obligated to share.