Hey everybody,
We're foreigners here in Finland and we seem to be having a really difficult time finding a cat to share our lives with here.
Here's our problem:
In all the countries we've lived in, we pretty much always adopted strays from the street. Typically the cat walked inside in the summer or meowed at our back door, we gave it some food, it spent the night, and then of course we bonded with the cat and it stayed for years with us, going freely in and out of the house and doing cat things outside when it wasn't inside cuddling with us.
Either that, or we rescued a cat from the local shelter days or hours before it was due to be put down. Again, for some reason, we instantly bonded with the cat.
Since we moved to Finland 7 years ago, we've tried adopting a cat from a local shelter - to no avail.
Problem #1: there are no strays in Finland, because cats aren't legally allowed out. No cats out, no strays, no shelters.
Problem #2: because there are no strays here, cats are in short supply. And I'm saying this literally: the few shelters operating in my area told me cats come in and go within half an hour - and for top dollar too. They're not cheap! Even common grey striped cats you can find a dime a dozen in any other country's shelters.
So we turned to the commercial market. We bought a cat 2 or 3 years ago from a student who said she didn't have time to take care of the cat. Turned out, after spending a week with the cat, it was mental. We had to give it away because it was destroying the house.
2 months ago, we decided to try it again. We're now in a large property with a lot of space. I built a large fenced-off area for the cat to play outside legally. We bought a cat the previous owner said she "had an allergy" to and had to give it up.
Allergy my hiney... This cat is mental too. That's why the owner gave it away: the cat is nice enough, but it has so much energy it too tears the house apart. I'm not kidding: it runs around the house so much it managed to scratch half the wooden floor just by bolting repeatedly when it gets the crazies in its head.
We're loving cat people, but there's nothing we can do to calm it the hell down. So we're going to give it away too before it makes us insane. We had it sterilized, vaccinated, chipped.. the whole nine yards. But it's just a 24/7 tornado. We have to.
The more we look at cats on Tori, the more we can read between the lines now: all the cats listed there are sold because the current owners can't live with their cats either. They're all mental. The cats that aren't mental don't wind up on Tori.
So here's my proposal: if you have a cat you genuinely need to give away or sell for actual genuine reasons other than because the cat has behavioral problems, we would like to take your cat for a couple of weeks with us. If the cat is nice and friendly as you claim, we'll pay you triple what you ask for. If it isn't and you just want to pass the problem to someone else, we return the cat to you. All by contract of course, so neither you or we get shafted.
We're in the Oulu region.
what are you doing for enrichment for the cat you currently have?
maybe you didn't mention it in your post, but it sounds like your cat potentially doesn't have enough enrichment. the issue could be solved by making sure that your cat gets tired out during the day, fulfilling their hunting instinct, being able to climb & hide in cat furniture, etc.
indoor cats need things like:
a lot of young indoor cats would also really benefit from a cat exercise wheel, because young cats have so much energy to burn! if your cat's climbing the walls with energy, i'd highly recommend one, it can be a game-changer.
Like I said, the cat has a large fenced-off area to go outside. It can hunt insects in the shrubs, climb trees - up to the fence anyway... The area is over 50 sq.m. It is NOT small. And the cat can get in and out on its own with a cat flap.
On top of that, we keep playing with it. And boy! does it play. All. The. Time. When my wife gets tired, the cat brings her toys to play some more, and scratches her legs if she doesn't.
It's a healthy, playful and nice cat. The trouble is, it never tires. Like EVER. When we have to catch some shut-eye, it goes crazy and starts running inside the house, ruining the carpets and the floorboards.
We like it, but it's just not livable. And believe me, it's not for lack of trying.
the outdoor area sounds great! and it's sweet that your cat brings toys to you, even if they're very insistent 😅
if the damage from their claws is the main problem, there are a few brands of claw caps ("soft paws" & "soft claws" are the main brands i know) that will stay on for a few weeks at a time until their claw sheds, then you replace any caps that have fallen off. they've been a lifesaver for me in rented places, and they're fairly cheap to order from ebay or wherever.
if having the zoomies at all is the main problem, then i would recommend getting them a cat exercise wheel & training them to use it; so along with the claw caps, they'll have somewhere to zoom around indoors without doing any damage.
i don't really know any cats that don't get the zoomies around the mornings and evenings, other than fairly sedate elderly cats, so if you're rehoming your cat to get a new one, i'd suggest looking for the oldest cats you can find, to avoid setting yourself up for disappointment & ending up back at square one.
It's not just that. It also destroys the furniture quite comprehensively, it keeps trying to go up - like all cats - at the cost of destroying whatever it needs to climb onto... and it's 24/7.
All the cats we've had in the past - and we've had many over the years - went crazy every once in a while: but they all calmed down within 15 / 30 minutes. Not this one: it's like that all the time, until it's so exhausted it collapses right there and then - and I'm not kidding: it will literally stop instantly and lie down on the floor wherever it happens to be. Then when it's rested, the insanity resumes.
oof, it sounds like claw caps and a cat exercise wheel might be really helpful, so!
it sounds like you're in a pretty tough situation, i wish you & your cat the best of luck ❤️🩹