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It's unacknowledged how much of civilization operates on "pretend to be working" (sopuli.xyz)
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This has been the bane of my existence in almost every job I've worked. "Look busy", "don't stand idle", "delegate tasks for yourself". My dude, if it's not on the job description and it's not a task I was onboarded in why would I do it?

But in life we're just supposed to somehow already know. And assume that we should lie about how we're spending our time. I've fought with multiple managers because I'll just leave when I get far enough ahead of my work that the only thing left to do is pretend I'm still working. I've been reprimanded for helping other areas instead of just still pretending to do work in my own.

It happens in enough fields that I realize, the culture isn't broken. This IS how average people get through their careers. I'm the one who can only survive in roles that don't have a hard endpoint for tasks. Because I'm broken in someway that I can't stop getting ahead of my work and I can't make myself lie about it.

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[–] reversedposterior@lemmy.world 37 points 1 day ago

This is something I realised a lot talking to my therapist over the years, that one of the reasons I was constantly burning out was because I was usually 100% task focused and people would be amazed at how much I got done all the time. But most people kind of just naturally tread water or like basically just do enough to make it seem like they are not doing nothing. On that baseline, I also came to the same realisation as you. The whole of the working world is based on just about passing as not incompetent and then people do what they like the rest of the time, but nobody explicitly tells anyone this because then the illusion would be broken I guess. Everything is performative, the stupid evaluations or target setting they have you do is just stuff you know you can do anyway normally but you slack enough to make it seem like it's something you 'worked hard for'.

The plus side is when you realise this, it means you can gradually start to give yourself a break. Obviously it varies based on the nature of your job, but I'm talking about stuff that isn't super high stakes.