Hexbear - "that's true, I see how our culture can be hard to decipher"

Lemmylib - "you guys are huge dicks without provocation"

Hexbear - oh well fuck you then :)

Lemmylib - "see, so hostile!"

If we respond to people being needlessly aggro with quip derision it's "so uncivil!" If we respond to people in good faith by trying to explain our differing views it's "wow im not going to read that!"

So what should we do?