Trying to get into those as a newbie is miserable dor all those reasons and also because, unless maybe if you get in right when the game first comes out, your competitors will be far more comfortable with the mechanics and have memorized the maps and so on. It's especially bad if you're a newbie to multiplayer shooters a whole, even if you're good at single player shooters. It becomes and exercise in: spawn, die, respawn, die... Super frustrating to begin with. And then people insult you. Noooot something I find worth bothering with for a thing that's supposed to be enjoyable in my free time.

Where baby’s first swear word becomes baby’s first racial slur! Does Mommy know you talk like that on the PSBox?

competitive shooters like Rainbow Six Siege or Counter Strike are also really bad in casual modes, especially if you’re a new or lackluster player. You’ll be flamed, team killed, and your teammates will try their absolute best to ruin your entire day over a hobby

I would be fine with all of that if they didn't also have the power to kick you from the match