People seem to want a lot of things from the fediverse right now but the key to most of them is patience. The platform and userbase are both unstable. Lemmy and kbin are both unfinished software that need more time and effort, and/or more devs. There isn't any getting around that.

As for the users, there are a huge amount of new ones every day, most coming from reddit, and they want to talk about what is fresh and relevant to them. We won't be able to get off the topic of reddit until it stops sending migrators. Additionally, people aren't quite certain how to use this space yet, and haven't finished finding/setting up the communities they want. It is going to take time, possibly more so than the development of lemmy and kbin.