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Will this one-by-one system forever be our main thing or do you think we will break monogamy and maybe "team up" as groups or something?

And yeah polygamy is a thing but do you think it will catch on to "the upper class"?

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[-] CanadaPlus 29 points 1 year ago

It appears to be pretty stable through history and prehistory around the world, so it's probably biological. Occasionally cultures allow limited exceptions but they're usually one-sided. This lines up with my personal experience, which is that some people are capable of being poly, but most people just aren't.

[-] Son_of_dad@lemmy.world 22 points 1 year ago

With the amount of people who cheat, I would say most people are but not ethically.

[-] CanadaPlus 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Ah yes, that's true. It's pretty common among monogamous birds too.

As I understand it, they're still mono because they couldn't stand it if their partner was doing the same thing.

[-] novibe@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

That’s… not true? Monogamy was not the primary form of bonding through humanity’s history. It actually is only recently a global phenomenon, mostly due to European colonialism and the spread of Christianity.

You really need to show some data or sources to backup such a claim tbh. It contradicts most of anthropology of bonding and relationships.

[-] CanadaPlus 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Well, here's the Wikipedia. To be clear, I'm counting a society where elite men might have multiple wives as still monogamous, since that's not representative of an average member of the population and the wives themselves are still bound to a single partner. Maybe that's a terminology error but for the sake of this question I think it's clearest.

And yeah, as someone pointed out there's an amount of infidelity in every human society, but it's generally neither endorsed by the legitimate partner or society at large, at least not as an actual relationship.

[-] novibe@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

The wiki says out of ~1200 societies studied only ~180 were monogamous. And that 16% of the monogamous were not strictly monogamous. I don’t know why the wiki would help your case.

[-] CanadaPlus 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

If you didn't read the rest of the paragraph, you should. It was comparing against variants of polygamy, plus 2 cultures that had polyandry, which I discussed elsewhere. Western-style polyamory didn't even make the rankings. I can only think of one other culture (the Mosuo) that might count.

Like I said, it might be an abuse of terminology to call this all monogamy, but natural language is inherently imprecise and this isn't an academic audience that can digest heavy jargon.

[-] DogMuffins@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 year ago

You're right, but is it noteworthy that societies with monogamy ultimately outcome teddit.hm others?

Not saying it's "better" just now successful in an expansionist kind of way.

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