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submitted 1 year ago by ab60753 to c/autism@lemmy.world

I hate pubs. I hate bars. All the people, loud music and other overstimulations make my brain go crazy... but most of my friends want to go to bars. Its seems like they are enjoying themselves... any tips to either get better att handeling sutch situations in fututure so i wont be as much of a antisosial outsider?

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[-] snailwizard@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

A drink or two usually helps me. I don’t really drink except socially so I’m enough of a lightweight haha. I do smoke tho which helps me tremendously. A plus is that you can always tell your friends you’re stepping out for a quick smoke and no one will think anything of it, in fact one or two might join you outside for some “fresh air” which is a nice change of pace.

Uhh you can also suggest a pregame at your place or a friends’. About half the pregames I’ve had just turn into a kickback at home naturally and it’s also way way cheaper lol.

Exposure therapy is also kind of useful in this case. If you’re more familiar with a few songs you can bop along. I think people tend to focus more on the basslines at the club rather than the music, so that could be something to try.

I hope you are able to start making bars a more positive experience! I really don’t like clubbing either but it can be fun once in a while. Good luck!

[-] ab60753 1 points 1 year ago

Thanks. Ye i think its a good idea to have "pre made" excuses to dissapere for a bit. But ill keep all your tips in mind.

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