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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.autism.place/post/293493

Coming out of paralysis and into power. Time to catch up on everythingggggg 🤘😎🎉

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submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world to c/autism@lemmy.world

Lemmy.Autism.Place

In the past year since this community was founded, we have seen impressive growth, engagement, and support within this community. Based on the content of what we have seen, we created an instance just for us founded on the principle of autism acceptance. The point is to have our place tailored to where we could freely be our autistic selves. While of course, we will federate with the other Fediverse instances that match our values, the purpose of the instance is to be able to create communities that are not solely limited to directly discussing autism, but to allow us to discuss all sorts of interesting topics in an way that is comfortable to us.

  • Want to have a community solely for memes about autism without worrying if it will clog up the one autism community on lemmy.world? Come over and make that community.

  • Have an obsession with the Battle of Stalingrad and want to drop some good info dumps from time to time? Make a community for that.

  • Do you have trouble with social situations and want to run them by others without being ridiculed by bullies? We can make a community for that too.

  • Don't want to only interact with autistic people? We're federated into the Lemmyverse, so you can subscribe to communities in other instances as well.

Come on over and feel free to sign up! Eventually, we hope to expand to other Fediverse services/software to provide a more comprehensive place.

Of note: we just started the instance, so it is possible that we will have some technical issues come up. If we do or you notice anything, please let us know in our chat. We would be happy to address it.

What will happen to !autism@lemmy.world?

We will continue to maintain this community. We will make a post if we foresee any major changes to this community to allow users to prepare beforehand, so there is no need to worry. Nothing is expected to change here anytime soon.

We hope you find the new instance welcoming and decide to be a part of it.

Edit: A link to our instance community for ease follows thanks to this comment's advice: !autismplace@lemmy.autism.place

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submitted 6 months ago by BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world to c/autism@lemmy.world

I think that this video has helped me develop some insight on how to spot high-masking autism, not just among women. I found a lot of the material covered in the video relatable even though I am male. Maybe that has something to do with our elevated rejection of established gender roles as a whole. Regardless, I like how rather than listing concrete signs, he gave a list of patterns that would be common to masking autistic women (I believe all genders, really) in a manner that could still be easily noticed. This also helped me understand that the cause of some autistic traits are not fundamental, but rather a result of masking. 🤯

Aside from the signs of masking autism, the ending hit me emotionally. He validates something that no one has really validated for me. I've been told my entire life that I was too much, not enough, or purposely trying to violate rules and norms out of some moral or character failing. It's like I wanted to be careless/offensive or a loser. However, when he covered how much effort we put into masking and that it takes a lot of energy to do, I felt a validation I don't remember ever experiencing. It's like someone said, "I believe you're doing your best."

He also elaborates on the impact of when we tell someone that we're autistic or have difficulties in certain areas and they invalidate it by saying that we're not autistic or that we function normally. He then posits that when we unmask, we need others to validate that experience. I think that statement was not only directed at us, but others that have autistic people in their lives. I plan on using that to guide who I continue to allow in my life. If I need to mask or am invalidated by someone when I unmask, then they're not a good fit for me, so I will interact with them less.

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I'm trying to get a feel for what users appreciate and want out of community moderators.

Other related questions:

  • What community rules do you like?

  • What moderation actions do you think are helpful?

  • What is a helpful way for moderators to interact with their respective communities?

  • Anything else relevant?

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 109 points 6 months ago

totally normal behavior for an organization /j

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submitted 6 months ago by BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world to c/autism@lemmy.world

I'm looking for online programs that help us navigate the world as autistic people. It could be anything, such as learning about autism, neurotypicals, social settings, identifying your emotions, self-care for autistic people, common terms related to autism, autistic love languages, etc...anything that helps autistic people live life.

If you have completed any programs related to being autistic, what were they and what did you think about them? Were they helpful?

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Sometimes adding a blank character helps with formatting. For example on Lemmy, it helps me separate lines of text if I insert a blank character between other lines. Currently, do that by copy-and-pasting the blank character from elsewhere. Here is an example

Is there a way I can do this on Linux easily from the keyboard? I am using KDE Neon and have the compose key enabled so that I can easily type uncommon characters like , ñ, and é easily.

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submitted 6 months ago by BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world to c/autism@lemmy.world

I'm still on my journey of understanding the differences between autism and other. My focus today is eye contact, so let's have a discussion!

Guiding questions:

  • What do you think is the underlying difference that causes autistic people to use less eye contact than others?

  • What does it feel like for you?

  • How do you interpret other people's eye contact?

  • Do you avoid it, use short glances, or maintain NT-levels of eye contact?

  • Does it vary by situation?

  • Anything else you would like to discuss regarding eye contact?

Question is open to anyone. If not identified, then the assumption is the user is autistic. Otherwise, if you're NT or other ND, please state so 🙂

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submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world to c/autism@lemmy.world

I think it would be interesting to share lessons we've learned about socializing that didn't come natural to us like they do for NTs.

  • What social difficulties did you have, and what did you learn to compensate for them?

  • Also, since there's a difference between autistic and NT cultures, what lessons did you learn about socializing with NTs and in NT environments?

Infodumps are welcomed! 😁

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submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world to c/support@lemmy.world

Hi!

I know that this question was asked several months ago, and the response was that there wasn't a setting for it. Has a setting that blocks posts with keywords been implemented since?

Thanks in advance!

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 104 points 6 months ago

I don't get it. What's the joke?

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They say it's a picture of atoms, but what are the atoms: the glowing yellow balls or the entire meatball including the darker red? If it's the meatballs, then why do some have apparently two nuclei?

Here's the public press release: https://news.cornell.edu/stories/2021/05/cornell-researchers-see-atoms-record-resolution

Here's the actual scientific article: https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/science.abg2533

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submitted 6 months ago by BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world to c/autism@lemmy.world

A video covering what they look like and what can trigger them.

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 93 points 6 months ago

"we". mfer is sending other people to war. he is not involved in any fighting. eff outta here

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Image: That Would Be Great meme template

Caption: If you could just not dance down the aisles, touch everything, and tell everyone the pros and cons of all the products you see...that would be great.

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 89 points 10 months ago

Skin tone wise, I'm pretty white. My DNA is something like 98% of European ancestry. However, I was born and raised in the USA, but to Cuban immigrants. My first language was Spanish and I use all of the slang because that was the only language used in my house since my parents never learned English. I speak with my hands. When I speak Spanish to Hispanophones, they comment on how thick my Cuban accent is. When I hang out with new people, there's a good chance someone will ask me where I'm from. Basically, there's something about me that tells people I'm not a typical White American.

I have been to Cuba about 20 times. I can wear my Cuban cousin's clothes and catch a local bus in the remote parts of Havana in which we are literally packed to the practical max. It's so packed, you dont need to hold anything to stay standing because you couldn't possibly fall, and unless you're right underneath the bar, you couldn't reach it anyway. This is where no tourist would ever think to go. Yet, someone will still recognize me as a foreigner. WTF? There's something intrinsically American about me.

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 94 points 11 months ago

What's the point of all this PRISM surveillance and whatever else the NSA has that we don't know about if they don't catch these guys and stop the threats?

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 111 points 1 year ago

The amount of messed-up that would be in this "prank" would be so...messed up.

  1. The girl seems like she was excited and happy over the proposal, which would later turn out to be disappointment, anger, and sadness when she finds out it was fake.

  2. She would be embarrassed that he doesn't want to marry her but she really wanted to. There's nothing wrong with one partner being ready and the other not, but having that displayed as a mockery is embarrassing.

  3. She didn't recognize that it was his twin brother, which is troubling. Even if she was unaware that he had a twin, I would expect her to pick up on some flags that it wasn't her partner: 1) different mannerisms, 2) very limited knowledge of shared experiences and her particular tastes, 3) no jointly understood scripts for showing affection, and more.

  4. When she is legitimately proposed to, she will have at least some considerable doubt that it's real and prevent her from engaging safely and freely, thus damaging the real proposal.

  5. She will now have to decide if she's okay with marrying into a family that pulls "pranks" like that. Also, considering that her partner's brother was fine with doing that, she may wonder if she is missing some serious flags with her partner.

Note: Please excuse me if I'm being too judgemental, picky, or similar. I found my cat of 3 years dead today, so I'm definitely more vulnerable and emotional.

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 151 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Wait a minute. I'm taking this four steps further for the benefit of all of humanity. Here we go.

One, we need to convert over to 24-hour time. No more of this ridiculous AM/PM confusing crap that makes calculating times confusing. What time is it? It's 9. AM or PM? None of that. It's 9. What time is it 8 hours after 9? It's 9+8= 17. It's 17. Not 5p. What the hell. Why did anyone even ever agree to this AM/PM garbage?

Two, we need to end time zones. They are ridiculous. What's the point?? We could all work on GMT. Imagine, the entire world on one date. A whole worldwide party to celebrate the new year at the same time. International flight scheduling would be soooo intuitive. Your flight time is the arrival time minus the departure time without having to pull out a timezone map and consider daylights-savings to calculate it. What time is it on the International Space Station? The exact same time it is for the rest of humanity. Oh, but then half the world will be awake at night. Nope! They would just adjust their working/wake hours. Instead of the Eastern USA being open from 0900-1700, they would be open from 0400-1300. BTW, calculating that time difference was easy since it was on 24-hour time.

Three, we need to change over to the Julian calendar. What the hell are months even?? They don't serve any purpose other than to sell calendars, maintain the legacy of ancient emperors that dissolved democracies, and gaslight us by telling us that Sept, Oct, Nov, and Dec mean 9th, 10th, 11th, and 12th. Get out of here with that crap. We're not buying it. Also, you know who else doesn't use 12-hour time and months?? The US military. They use GMT and Julian calendars for operational matters. Why? Because it makes sense for a global system to use the same thing everywhere!!

Fourth and lastly, we need to switch the year count to the Human Era. Stop with this whole year based on Jesus' supposed birth or death**. Do we even know if it's based on his birth or death? It doesn't matter. Oh, but historians use Before Common Era and Common Era. Okay...and who's life happens to line up perfectly with the split? That's like saying that the American Civil Rights movement ended racism in the country, yet there's still racial segregation and oppression. This is ridiculous. Civilization is letting the life of one person decide when it started?! What about everyone that lived before Jesus? Abroham? Cleopatra? Mark Antony (the full Roman, not the Romantic Puerto Rican)? the Buddha Llama? Sohcrateez? Confusion? Ea-nāṣir?! The correct year is when human civilization started. We are currently in the year 12,023 of the Human Era.

That's it! We've had enough of this oppression propagated by Big Time, including Rolex, Casio, Fossil, and grandfather. This movement starts right here👇, right now👇! One☝🏿humanity. One☝🏾period in the day inconsiderate of the meridian. One☝🏽variable for the date in a year. One☝🏼love. One☝🏻time.

Edit: Right now at the time of this edit, it is 5:00 pm on October 25, 2023 EST (daylights savings time), or better yet, 12023-298-2100 (year-date-time). 31 characters (excluding that it's daylights savings time!) vs. 14. Look at how simple 😮

We are all one system of humanity functioning on the same time, regardless of what anyone says. Right now is right now, no matter what we call it. It's time we all progress to a better future at/on the same time.

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 95 points 1 year ago

Since we're on Lemmy, USB jump drive so they can reinstall a new distro of Linux every ~3 months

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 103 points 1 year ago

Conversation

Bro 1: Did you get a boner? 🤠

Bro 2: Fuck yeah, dude! I was so hard 💪, I was about to cum in my pants 👖👈.

Bro 1: That's awesome! 🤜🤛

Translation

Bro 1: I am interested in your level of sexual arousal at the bar. Will you please share that information with me?

Bro 2: I am excited to tell you that I was so aroused that my penis was fully erect, I almost felt the immense pleasure of orgasm and soiled my clothes with ejaculate.

Bro 1: Your enthusiastic sexual arousal report makes me happy. Let's touch hands.

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 162 points 1 year ago

The code states that “male students’ hair will not extend, at any time, below the eyebrows or below the ear lobes,” CNN previously reported.

Why do male and female students have different dress codes? WTF does the school system care if boys have longer hair? Apart from safety issues like being in a workshop class, why does anyone in the school system think they have the right to control who can and can't have certain hair lengths?

Yo, is anyone else getting really sick of this overreach of power and authority? I'm not referring to the economic and political relations. Those aside, I'm talking about this crap where people are starting to get involved in personal matters of appearance, medicine, gender, and even straight bs crap like a high school band finishing a song. This is getting way out of hand. Our culture is rotting with power and control issues at the expense of individual liberties.

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 133 points 1 year ago

Private mental health providers in the US are pretty unsupervised and have a conflict of interest in that they make more money by keeping their patients/clients unwell, which can lead to negligence and abuse. The only thing keeping in line is the possibility of someone informed and insightful enough to report them to the licensing board or pressing a lawsuit.

For example, if a provider has poor integrity, it is in their best interest to not treat depression, but rather help the patient/client feel good for the moment. What the patient/client experiences is that they feel better when they see their provider, so they become dependent on their provider. This ensures the provider a reliable source of revenue.

Another issue is that masters level therapists, while capable of providing treatment for simple cases such as a clear depressive episode, are not properly trained to conduct thorough assessments for complex cases, meaning they can misdiagnose quite easily. Complex cases would be better treated by a well-trained psychologist that can conduct thorough psychometric assessments that are quite sophisticated and take lots of time to analyze. These services are costly and the vast majority of insurance policies won't cover them.

Relevantly, yet another issue is insurance for mental health. Most insurance policies that pay for mental health services pay low, so the care you receive can be substandard since the more effective providers are charging what they're worth in a market economy. One example that comes to mind is Better Help. They pay providers insultingly low, like around $30/hour, while effective providers are charging ~$150/hr out-of-pocket. That means that when someone uses Better Help to obtain care, they're getting the bottom of the barrel therapist.

Lastly, the majority of family and marriage therapists aren't properly trained in narcissistic emotional abuse. This can mean that therapy would not only be a waste of time, but can make things much worse as they can help the narcissist abuse the victim even further. Narcissistic abuse is quite complicated and requires a relationship therapist that specializes in that to properly assess and help the victim escape.

Tips: If you have been seeing a therapist for 12 sessions, and you haven't realized any considerable long-term changes, find another therapist. Also, if your therapist doesn't call you out on your bullshit, let's you ramble about tangential matters, or focuses on helping you overcome specific weekly struggles, rather than helping you develop skills and restructure deep cognitive matters to address them yourself, find another therapist. An effective therapist would develop a clear treatment plan with you that aims to meet objectively measurable goals within a certain time frame.

Note: I am not a therapist. I have just worked in the mental health field and have friends that are therapists.

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 91 points 1 year ago

Taking advantage of people in weaker positions of power, from being rude to a waiter to abusing a disabled person. They all make me dislike the person immediately and will likely cut them out of my life as soon as possible.

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