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Children are a burden.
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this post was submitted on 06 Nov 2023
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Hah! Nice and easy to understand answer. Welp, you'll have amazing family holidays when your kids have kids, and you'll have no shortage of people who can help you when you get old. I only had one kid and sometimes I regret it. I always imagined I'd have a lot of little kids to mentor when I hit middle age, but there are none. It's odd. I mean I enjoy the freedom, but there's definitely a different type of cost.
There is just so much more to it but the reality is I did have a bunch of kids with the same woman and I didn't want to be a shit parent like mine were so now I can't see my life without them and it is worth it. As for what the future holds for them as adults and me as being an old man is still waiting to be seen but I wouldn't turn away that life you described.
There are lots of people who are 40+ regretting not having kids and wanting their own now but it's just getting tougher. There is always kids in need of good mentors so check out things like Big Brother, Big Sisters or maybe coaching if you're into sports.
I have 6 kids but I still think about fostering kids since I can't adopt (they don't like single parents).
I actually have been thinking about fostering or adopting! It's an enormous commitment though, so it has only been a vague thought so far. My wife and I were talking about having a kid in 2019 and then 2020 happened and we decided we don't want to bring a new life into this world. But I wouldn't be entirely opposed to helping an existing life have a better one.
If you have the means and the love do it.
I know far more people who have children who regret than those who don't have kids and regret it.