All struggles being 'equal' seems weird and hard to accept, but it's important to do so. You aren't going through what someone else is going through nor are they going through what you're going through. Both things exist at the same time and have the same weight to them. Sure society will claim one should suck it up or whatever but that is just toxic and meant to keep people down. I'm not going to change your mind since that is something you have to do from your end. But I did want to offer it up that you can have your problems and they're equally as important as those of someone else. This kind of thinking was a big shift for myself way back and I got my mom to shift her thinking too and it's just all around a good change.

Well remember that it's your choice if you do or do not do something. This is true of dating, job(s), friend(s) etc. If you're not in a place where you feel you can have a relationship that's okay. The future may change that for you and it may not. While that isn't the most... warm of sentiments it has to be said. Most people don't really care about what it is that we feel should hold us back from doing something like dating. Don't let it get you down instead go at your own pace and make the decision yourself.