It's more about ownership of a copyright than ownership of an actual item though. There are issues with our copyright system that could be addressed (DMCA should be launched into the sun), but overall it's the lesser of two evils. A society without any copyright enforcement simply wouldn't produce the kinds of outstanding media that we're all used to. Movies today cost hundreds of millions to make, and without a sufficient profit motive, no investor would be willing to front that kind of cash. Even crowdfunding, which I actually feel is scammier than private investors, has never come close to raising the capital needed for a major film or TV show. The system only works so long as a critical mass of consumers are actually paying for most media.

Personally I'm fine with paying netflix for their content, with the understanding that I'm licensing its use on my television, not purchasing the work outright. I don't see that as any kind of scam. I mean I still pirate too, but now that I'm at a point in life where I can afford to contribute, I try to. I have friends that are actors and writers and so I don't mind paying to ensure a healthy ecosystem of content creators moving forward. But if you make it too difficult or inconvenient for me to access the media I want, then to the high seas I sail, and I'm fine with that too lol

With most modern software you paying for the on-going development and all the network infrastructure to send you your copy. Same way that you pay to use the bowling alley.