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Anyone else see so many pictures of pretty women that it makes them want to transition? (lemmy.world)

submitted 8 months ago by throwawaygen@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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My social media algorithms show me so many cool cosplayers, tomboys, pretty girls in a variety of nice clothes, alt girls, fairies with elf ears but never any attractive men doing anything cool or stylish or interesting that it just feels so lame being a guy.

I never see any attractive men (im bi) with interesting style or clothes or looking attractive in cosplay or being artistic and hot. Are dudes just so boring with their looks or is my algorithm just too skewed towards women?

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[-] morphballganon@lemmy.world 10 points 8 months ago

Be the change you wish to see in the world. Be that attractive guy in an interesting artistic cosplay. See if that scratches the itch. You can dress well without transitioning, and you can transition without dressing well. The two don't have to be connected.

Your algorithm is likely based on your past clicks. You probably give traffic to female cosplayers and not to male cosplayers.

[-] throwawaygen@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

I cant find stuff to draw inspiration from tho thats my issue

[-] morphballganon@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

Just look at guys in media you admire. They don't have to be real life. Say you like a character from a show, movie or game. I read about someone who started emulating a gentleman from a western game (forget which one) and it did wonders for his confidence.

Even if you look at real life, there are men's fashion icons. I recall seeing Idris Elba rocking some nice suits for example.

Reddit has a r/mensfashionadvice with tons of inspiration. I'm not sure if Lemmy has a comparable community.

[-] Silentiea@lemm.ee 2 points 8 months ago

Or look at the women you think look good, and masculinize it. Women's outfits aren't all inherently womenly or anything, and even a dress or something can be made more manly if you need to and you're willing to exercise that creative muscle.

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