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Bonus: what are your goals for the future (doesn't have to be specific)

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[-] ProbabalyAmber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 7 months ago

I'm way further along than I ever thought I'd get. The laser hair removal and the finastride are both working great to add/remove hair where needed. My bald spot has tiny little hairs growing! I have a small selection of women's clothing, and I love them, but fuck women's pockets. I guess I need a purse? Also ordered a gaff, should help me feel more confident in my girl jeans.

On the other hand, I'm missing some foundations. I was planning on coming out socially to my family during a superb owl party, but then everyone got sick and it was cancelled. I need to find another time where we can just chill over a beer and go over everything. Maybe someday after church? Because I'm missing my social foundation, I can't drop the masc. Which means I can't shave and laser my face (wearing the same distinctive beard for years means there will be questions if it goes away). Which means I can't learn makeup. So feeling a tiny bit stuck until I can come out.

Also, the wife likes how happy presenting more fem makes me, but still thinks that her being with a woman is a sin and is suppressing her bi side. The current compromise is no estrogen for me. Again, this is much further than I ever thought I'd get, so I'm taking it in stride and doing what I can with what I have.

Continuing goals: voice train, lose weight, increase fem wardrobe. New goals: come out, destroy beard, learn makeup Pipe dream: convince the wife that estrogen is the bestrogen, slowly grow into old ladies together, and convince the world that "Queer Christian" isn't an oxymoron.

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