This doesn't make sense. Is it supposed to say "a book about monogamy"? That would make a little more sense.
Edit: fix stupid phone autocorrect
I'm poly and just celebrated my 1 year Trio-versary today! Haven't seen any poly memes on here yet so it's funny it comes up today
Happy Trio-versary...I'd end up forgetting it twice and having two disappointed partners!
I may have a strange definition of marriage that might come from my complete lack of religion. Churches are, after all, mostly in the business of being not okay with the subject of genitalia, which is mostly what has shaped the "institution of marriage."
I would like to have a long-term friend, a non-blood relative I have known for a long time, whose character I can vouch for, someone approximately my age, to hold my power of attorney, as my insurance beneficiary, and stuff like that, and I to them. I need not ever pork this person. I need not live in the same house as this person.
I do not consider myself polyamorous, I'm not particularly interested in swinger wife swap whatever. I tend to prefer having lots of sex with one person. But, in the modern world, partners do come and go. Job opportunities arise (or more frequently jobs evaporate and they have to go back somewhere they can more easily afford) and it's completely insane to ask someone to follow you. Or you just get tired of each other. Legally attaching onesself to your favorite person to fuck does not seem like a viable financial strategy. Look how many people it destroys every year.
Perish the thought of having children.
So, the thing that other people have, where they've picked one human to be a roommate/permanent sexual partner/insurance beneficiary/person whose allowed to shit while you're taking a shower/eventual divorcee? I don't understand wanting this for yourself.
Signed,
A bachelor
Wonder if the poster took the moment to consider the millions of folks out there who physically can't have sex anymore due to circumstances outside their control when they wrote this 🤔
Strangely, the only poly people I seem to come across are bi-guy in relationship with woman and female-to-male trans-man. I know other polycule types exist, but for that type, to paraphrases Rick Sanchez: "That just sounds like polygamy with extra (accepting) steps."
Maybe this is an unpopular opinion but I just don't think polyamory can work. It will never stay or remain balanced between them all, and simply doesn't work long term. Two people is already incredibly difficult on so many emotional and logistic levels, adding a third while also remaining the love and attraction equal is simply not sustainable.
I am the type of person who cannot separate sexual relationships from romantic relationships. I used to think the same way you about open/poly relationshios and also "friends with benefits". Every time I'd seen one they ended badly with someone, like me, "catching feelings" and someone getting hurt.
However, I recently found out that a couple in my friend group has an open marriage. They attend parties together and very much appear to be a loving couple like any other and, I believe, they are. They just also date and have sex with other people sometimes.
I think it isn't for everyone. I also think that often someone is dissatisfied in a relationship and they think they can make it work with a third or open relationship... and it doesn't work out. But I'm convinced that for some people it absolutely works.
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