I mean the nice thing about Lemmy is you can always create your own community, and if that's not enough, your own instance.

It removes a bad mods ability to completely dominate, because there's always an escape hatch for folks who are just done with their shit.

I believe you misunderstood why you were banned.

You were banned because of incivility and ableism. You were making derogatory comments about the mentally ill as though having a illness was a bad thing.

I can see why you were confused, as homophobia is also listed under rule 1.

Yeah. Lemmy's biggest strength (decentralization) has also shown to be one of it's biggest flaws when micro-managing admins/mods turn their instance into their own personal fiefdom, inflicting their "justice" broadly and without discernment. I've been banned more here in under 2 years than on reddit for over 13, almost exclusively for voting "wrong" according to what feedback I can find, which is a a seriously treacherous practice in communities like these. I have no real sense of loss over it, but I do worry the Lemmy-verse will end up with tons of siloed off instances instead of an interconnected community if it goes on unadressed.

Every person and every platform has its biases and values, so it's not as helpful to think of moderation and control as more-or-less, so much as what is being controlled.

For example, reddit's revenue model led them to censor moderators during the API fiasco, and some of the communities on Lemmy since its early days are continuations of quarantined or banned subreddits. Meanwhile, most Lemmy instances take a stand against bigotry which would fly without a worry on reddit. This is a result of each platform's values, what they as a community (or in reddit's case, business) consider tolerable. reddit has the added constraint that they can't alienate their advertisers and other sources of income, and face increased scrutiny from mass media (news articles are usually the cause of controversial subreddits finally getting enough attention to cause them to be banned).

Different opinions are not welcome, quick/ angry comments

I feel like Lemmy is consistently hostile to different opinions. It's a real disappointment.

Lol I didn’t even know this community existed. To be fair their description even states that moderation is heavy handed.

Edit: Pretty sure that’s a troll community or something? Every single post there is kinda crap and is being downvoted.